bamboozled_UGH Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 This forum has changed my life. I was the OW without knowing it for a month. I broke up with him for a few days; but his friends convinced me to call him and check on him...he was in serious distress. So to make it short, after that I kept seeing him. His friends didn't know that he was married or expecting. But he has told that all that I am the one and he must decide if he is going to get married in the church next. He is getting married in a few days and the wife is pregnant (civil marriage going through the religious part next). I let him convince me that I am the one for him. I see that this is the best lie around. I also let him convince me that I should be the mother of his child; I might be pregnant now. This forum has enlightened me to the damage caused by men like him and the women like me, who after finding out still make a$$ decisions instead of moral decisions. Of course he is saying that he will not go through with the marriage...blah blah blah...was never convinced of that. Now I see what damage our decisions may have done. I need for you to pray for me: 1. that I am not pregnant and 2. that I never ever speak to him again. How silly of me at my age to fall for this one! Has anyone ever experienced that situtation where the MM got the OW pregnant intentionally? If so, what happened? This blows my mind that I was so caught up.
sami Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Let's pray that you are not pregnant. If so, then cut off any future contacts with him. If you are,God fporbids, pregnant then that is a different story. Let's hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
supermom Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Oh My! I am sorry to hear what you are going through. Especially since he lied to you. Are you going to tell his fiance? What are you going to do if you are preg? If you are and decide to keep it he will still have no legal rights to the child if you are not married. My best friend was not married yet to her daughter's father and he had to sign Acknowledgement Papers, even though he was present for the birth and they are married now. Keep us posted. I hope you are okay. This forum has enlightened me to the damage caused by men like him and the women like me, who after finding out still make a$$ decisions instead of moral decisions. It's nice when you can learn from here.....I definetely have.....including understanding situations like this, as I have been on the other end (wife) and was very bitter. I now can have a more open minded mind for everything and it definetly sounds like you are not proud, and you are the victim as well (lied to). Good luck and keep us posted.
dudesomewhere Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 "This forum has enlightened me to the damage caused by men like him and the women like me, who after finding out still make a$$ decisions instead of moral decisions." It's good for you to have reached this conclusion for yourself. Really good that you have made that distinction and I mean so sincerely. There are some on this forum that would rather you make those a$$ decisions instead of the moral ones because that's all they know. here's hoping...
Author bamboozled_UGH Posted July 20, 2004 Author Posted July 20, 2004 I will not tell...that is hurtful to her. He was the cad, not her and then I participated. They have only been married since Feb and he started seeing me in May. She is 4 or 5 months pregnant. I will let this settle itself and hopefully I am not pregnant. I will find out in a few days. Did your husband intentionally get the OW pregnant?
I DID TELL Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 I changed my mind. Sent her a letter and told everything. Even sent it to the church. Will not tell him that I told.....but he deserved it.
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