kourix Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 was on the dating website coz' i got a message, and decided to look around at the available single men for the fun of it. then i saw his face, found out he created a new profile and is back on the site with new pictures, etc. i hate to admit it, but it has affected me. back down in the dumps now. one of his lines "and who knows, i may come across my perfect match here!" this from the guy who told me he hated that we met online, it was not romantic etc, etc... i think i'm more upset about the fact that he told me he claimed he hated online dating, but he's now doing it, and also that i was never good enough for him. i'm not sure how long that profile has been there, but he sure "moved on" fast. sigh, why am i so affected? i hate this, i wish i could forget we ever met. it would kill me if he met his "perfect match" through the site now and i found out about it. can't wrap the fact that i wasn't good enough for him around my head.a ughhhh someone save me from myself.
geegirl Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) It doesn't matter whether he hates online dating or not. If he wants to meet other women, he will. I don't think the "online" thing is what's hurting you but the fact that he's moving on. You have the choice to meet a good match too, Kourix. He never was, as much as tried to make him be what you wanted him to be. He's going out there and creating opportunities for himself, you have to as well. The thing is you guys never had a relationship. It's not an indication that you are lacking, but that it wasn't meant to be. We've all experienced another leaving us for their own reasons, only to meet someone down the line that loves us just the way we are. As my mom always said, "every pot will have its lid." Like those tupperwares you have in your kitchen cabinet. Damn if you can find the right lid when you need it. Then one day when you're not looking, there it is! Don't beat yourself up for not being chosen. We've all experienced that. Never look at it as devaluation. Just a question of compatibility, timing, wants, needs, etc. It's not about you lacking as a person. In my years of being let down time and time again, I've found that all those disappointments were leading me to the wonderful guy I'm with now. One thing I hope you learned from this is that you should never force someone to love you. Edited September 2, 2012 by geegirl 2
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