RedRobin Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Most women get attracted after good sex hence the reason some men push for it so early and also you have your own gender to blame because there are women that just give it up and to a guy if that happens enough times its assumed that is what all of them do. Plenty of guys get attached after good sex too... With women who are just 'meh' about them... This is another reason I wait for sex... I don't like hurting people. Best to know each other a bit more before sex... lessens the odds that either will be too devastated if it turns out you aren't compatible. That is what has worked for me anyway... Other people have different ways...
joystickd Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Plenty of guys get attached after good sex too... With women who are just 'meh' about them... This is another reason I wait for sex... I don't like hurting people. Best to know each other a bit more before sex... lessens the odds that either will be too devastated if it turns out you aren't compatible. That is what has worked for me anyway... Other people have different ways... Weak men:lmao:
RedRobin Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 You mentioned players. Nobody is dumb you are on the usual man tirade No. I used the word 'people' quite intentionally. There are women on LS who are pretty blatant about how they use guys who aren't 'relationship' material... and suck them in with the sex and feel-good stuff. I wouldn't call them gold-diggers either. Not sure what they are... probably just confused. Either way, I don't like to see men get 'played' either. Makes it tougher for women like me too who aren't out to play anyone. Just doing what I think is best for anyone who is sincerely looking for a relationship. 1
joystickd Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 No. I used the word 'people' quite intentionally. There are women on LS who are pretty blatant about how they use guys who aren't 'relationship' material... and suck them in with the sex and feel-good stuff. I wouldn't call them gold-diggers either. Not sure what they are... probably just confused. Either way, I don't like to see men get 'played' either. Makes it tougher for women like me too who aren't out to play anyone. Just doing what I think is best for anyone who is sincerely looking for a relationship. Come on now we know better:rolleyes:
RedRobin Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Weak men:lmao: Well. I can see you don't have much positive to say about anyone who is sincerely looking for a relationship... and who takes a chance at being open. Male or female. *shrug*
joystickd Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Well. I can see you don't have much positive to say about anyone who is sincerely looking for a relationship... and who takes a chance at being open. Male or female. *shrug* Just like you don't have anything positive to say about men. All you can ever do is talk about player or how men want younger women. If I was your age and saw this I would prefer a younger woman. I have stated before I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I would like to be in one but in my area are mostly divorced women and baby mommas. I just have sex with them. That is all they are honestly useful for because they are not relationship material to me. If I come across the right person compatible with me then I would be open to a relationship. She has to put in that work to get me invest. Its a hard job
RedRobin Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 A stranger trigger them emotions right and the panties fall. Its easy to get on here and talk the I can see a player a mile away game, but its different to walk it and actually know. right, right... Sounds like you and the player 'doods' really are a legend in your own mind... ... shall we huddle around the campfire and pull out the marshmallows and graham crackers now? Any other 'scary' stories you care to share with us??
joystickd Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 right, right... Sounds like you and the player 'doods' really are a legend in your own mind... ... shall we huddle around the campfire and pull out the marshmallows and graham crackers now? Any other 'scary' stories you care to share with us?? I'm just stating truth. It's not my fault you can't handle it and have to kick out the crazy comments like this.
xxoo Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 May I be blunt? I think your intention to wait is actually a good one. However, I get the impression that you are looking for an extremely dominant male. An extremely dominant male who will wait around for sex and who will put in the effort to call you instead of only text, is quite the tall order, unless you happen to be spectacular yourself. I'm not trying to insult you, I'm saying that it's a very very rare guy who is both really dominant AND who will wait on sex. A woman who is amazing herself actually can make an honest man out of such an alpha male, but otherwise.... If you really want a relationship, have you thought about modifying your selection criteria? Take home message: Be AMAZING! Why not?
Ruby Slippers Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I'm not trying to play games or force someone to commit, I'm just trying to weed out the guys that do not want a relationship. I don't see what it so wrong with this. I get instantly attached after sex and I don't want to get attached to someone I don't know well enough. This is all that matters. It made me really happy to read your post and feel the truth and courage in your words come through. I fully support your decision and think it is a wise one that will lead you to a loving, fulfilling relationship with a good man 1
joystickd Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Take home message: Be AMAZING! Why not? Don't we all have to be amazing
xxoo Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 Don't we all have to be amazing In love, there is nothing less than amazing. Love makes your partner seem amazing. It starts with loving yourself. A guy doesn't stick around after 4 dates? His loss! He missed out. But be worth waiting for. If you are into him, give him plenty of evidence of that. You can do that without sleeping with him.
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