men that never call wth?

[starla33]

Pretty much every single guy I have dated in the last few years does not call and only communicates by text. At this point I'm extremely annoyed by this and can not put up with it any longer.

 

It has gotten so bad....the last guy literally would text me when he was outside my house to pick me out...YES TEXT not call. I wonder why that is? Why on earth would you sit there when you are about to pick someone up and text them and not quickly call them to let them know you are there? Are people seriously THIS scared of their phones now?!

[SJC2008]

Yeah men should definately call, especially after a date if they wish to see you again. The texting I'm outside isn't a big deal IMO unless he's picking you up for something very special. On the flip side I dated a woman who answered her phone once, and called back once and responded to the rest of my calls by text, we went out 3 times.

[Ugh1]

That annoys me too!

[starla33]

Yeah men should definately call, especially after a date if they wish to see you again. The texting I'm outside isn't a big deal IMO unless he's picking you up for something very special. On the flip side I dated a woman who answered her phone once, and called back once and responded to the rest of my calls by text, we went out 3 times.

 

What if I'm away from my phone! You have to assume when you get to someones house they might be in another room etc so you need to call them for them to hear their phone ring or vibrate multiple times....I mean come on now waste of time!

[soccerrprp]

Yup, texting is an issue in the world of dating, communication. It has become a very impersonal, convenient way to communicate and it seems guys, more often than the ladies are inclined to use it as their preferred form of communication. I think it's simple though, guys don't want to have a "conversation." Or chit chat...They want to go to the point and move on. There are exceptions, of course...

[Titanwolf]

Although I detest texting, I also detest talking on the phone. I really HATE phone calls and there are a few people that have permanently ruined the concept for me, with their endless, pointless talking. The only time I'll use my phone, is when it's to confirm something, or to check in on someone if something is wrong/they are ill. Unfortunately, too many people (women) have my number and I find it difficult to fall asleep sometimes, because my phone won't stop ringing ¬_¬

[tori0001]

I personally prefer texting, I don't want anyone to call me. It's easier, quicker, and too the point.

[tigressA]

Ugh, I hate texting, but pretty much everyone I know uses it as their default form of communication, so I have to go along with it or be left out of the loop. Thankfully I do have a few friends who, when I call, actually call me back, though it might not be for a couple of days.

 

I get really annoyed when I see people texting while out with friends/family/their SO. It's so rude!

 

My ex would call so much more than text and I miss that. Most guys I meet these days are all about texting.

[El Brujo]

then answer the damn phone when we call you

 

^What that guy said.^

 

That, or get your man a ham radio walkie-talkie that has an APRS feature.

[Jane2011]

I prefer texting, too, for the most part. I've been dating a guy who has not called me even once in four weeks, but he's texted tons, and he always initiates it. We also have plenty to talk about in person. The lack of calling isn't because we can't converse; we just save it for in person.

[carhill]

I wonder why that is?

Path of least resistance. They can consider their next comment.

Why on earth would you sit there when you are about to pick someone up and text them and not quickly call them to let them know you are there? Are people seriously THIS scared of their phones now?!

It becomes an engrained habit, considering they're using the same phone for texting.

 

Do these men actually speak on dates?

 

 

I ran into a bit of this when dating post-M. As getting married pre-dated texting, I didn't have experience with women who texted while on dates. I presume they were somewhat shocked when I found that to be unacceptable behavior

[youngskywalker]

The texting issue comes up all the time. I learned a long time ago that habitual texting in the dating scene is suicide for relationships.

 

When I begin dating a girl I DON'T text at all. Too much miscommunication happens because of it.

[Emilia]

I presume they were somewhat shocked when I found that to be unacceptable behavior

 

I love breaking that to a guy, they always look shocked, if there is a next date the mobile doesn't come out again

 

OP when a guy starts texting me like that I call him. Then he keeps texting, I call him again. Usually he picks up the phone in the 3rd round of communications (though I don't mind a little bit of texting myself, especially flirting).

 

Lead by example.

[carhill]

OP, a suggestion I often make in cases like yours is to simply respond to unwelcome texts (as described by you) with 'call me'. One time. Don't respond again in any way until the phone rings and there's a voice on the other end of the person engaging you via text. If that's never, that's an answer. Boundaries.

[fortyninethousand322]

Calling is a sign of either a) age or b) clinginess. If you're young, a man, and have self respect you'll text, talk in person or over some kind of social network/IM service.

[runner]

Calling is a sign of either a) age or b) clinginess. If you're young, a man, and have self respect you'll text, talk in person or over some kind of social network/IM service.

 

i hope this is just a case of mistranslated sarcasm over the intertubes cos, calling as a sign of 'clinginess' is just (i'm thinking the occassional call, not blowing up someone's phone)