Jealous ex, to respond or ignore?

[AwptiK]

So, in short, my ex broke up with me roughly a week and a half ago.

 

The reasoning itself was wanting to be single and do her own thing, not get tied down at her age (18/freshman, i'm 21). I'm only bringing this up because there was a sense of her wanting me to wait, but a few days later it was clear she was going to start flirting around and "be single". Thus, I stopped avoiding potentially new girls and started doing my own thing.

 

Met a new girl shortly after my mindset change. She's a "ms. right now" kind of girl for me; it might be unfair to judge this way, but I'd prefer to date the ex than this new girl.

 

Anyway, tonight the new girl came over to hangout. I left my laptop open and she changed my FB status to, "Hanging with this one girl :)" Within half an hour, my ex commented, "So who's the new girl? Haha" and texted within a few minutes, "Who's the new b....?"

 

 

I don't know if I should respond or ignore. I guess ignore? Though, like I said...i'd prefer the ex. Although, by that I mean the more mature, wants-a-relationship version of my ex.

 

I guess there's no point in stressing over something like this, but if there's any advice or mindset to have, feel free to share. I'm definitely not about to jealousy-trip an ex into wanting me back, though the text/comment was slightly satisfying to me.

[BetrayedH]

I don't mean to be rude but these do sound like the games that 18-21 year-olds play. Your ex is likely just smart enough to know that it's not smart to get too attached at her age.

 

It may take all three of you a while to know what you really want. Try not to hurt anyone in the meantime (or thereafter).

[TaraMaiden]

Yes, don't play immature mind games.

Just let it be.

Knowing the kinds of environments you guys probably mingle in, she may well find out soon enough anyway.

Ignore it, rise above it, let it be.

But don't be a jerk about it.

 

Does 'Ms Right Now' equate with that description, is she aware of it, and ok with it?

Are you HER 'Mr Right-Now'?

 

Yeah, I know, it's really early days - but bear that question in mind, as a question you don't need to answer here.

Just in her head.

[AwptiK]

I have thought about the "right-now" questions and the current girl and I are on the same page, but it is early and i'm open for anything.

 

Though, to update now..

 

Last night the ex removed me from her facebook friends and called our mutual friend around the same time. That's how I found out about fb, but she had also asked my friend if he knew who this new girl was. He didn't say much, besides the fact that he and I were currently hanging out with two girls and he got off the phone after.

 

I got a text after that call, again asking, "So who's the new girl?" and I ignored it. Then she called me.. It was a really weird situation, first time i've heard her voice since our breakup. She kept talking about how it bothered her to think about me and someone else, but she was happy for me. She also really didn't want to get off the phone. It wasn't until the mutual friend came outside where I was and said, "Get off the phone dude" that I finally said, "I gotta go.." to a response of, "Whatever"

 

-.-

 

I don't know why there's worth in sharing this besides a clear head...

[g450]

Good lord, why all the drama?

 

Just block her and be done with that crap. What the heck do you want from us anyway? An audience to your game playing?

 

If your going to ignore the advice given then you might as well kill this thread.

[navyblueskies]

AwptiK:

 

Let me give you some advice that will help. If you're 21, I wouldn't even worry about dating. You're 21, man. You should be going to clubs and parties, having fun with girls, and focusing on friendships with school. I can tell that there is a big difference between 18 and 21. 22 is when people actually start maturing (the ones that make it), because they have experienced the 21-bar-phase and by 22 they are looking for serious relationship to settle down on. Trust me, I've wasted lots of time doing these little dates and relationships around your age in college, and it's not worth it. In any sense, I'd leave your ex behind and your new girl too (since you prefer your ex over the new girl anyway). I would make friends with lots of girls. I'm not saying you should go out be a player and go out sleeping with everyone. I'm just saying you should enjoy 21 while you still have it, because it is so short-lived. I'm in the upper 20s now. Younger crowds, around your age, look us like we should have our life put together and that we're trying to mature ourselves. According to the older people, we're still young. So, enjoy 21 while you have it. You will regret it, rather than spending all the little drama with these girls.