Sebastian76 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) What does it mean? I broke up with my ex through 18 months 3 months ago. It was pretty bad. She'd tried to meet an old lover behind my back so I kicked her out the door. Most likely she had cheated on me already. We spoke the day after on the phone, had an argument and that was it. She never tried to contact me ever since. I called her a week later just to get some kind of closure and it was clear that she wasn’t trying to win me back in any sense and I didn't give anything away either. I met her girlfriends a couple of times. A week after BU one was looking at me like I was a victim “how are you coping?” I was so pissed off that I told her I had wanted out of the relationship for months, and that I was doing just fine. Then I met another girlfriend of my ex a month ago, one that I always clicked with really well. She said “we miss you” and that she had thought about asking me out for a beer, as she really missed me (the friend that is). Of course I declined. Then today I met the same friend as well as another of my ex’es gfs. They came over directly and we talked casually for ten minutes. They were really nice to me and huggy, even the boyfriend of one of them gave me a hug. Non condescending btw. I know that my ex hooked up with this guy for a few weeks after we broke up but that it apparently didn’t work out (yeah I stalked her phone record and FB – bad I know). But what does the friends' behaviour mean. Apparently they don’t think I am a douche, but they don’t mention my ex at all when we talk and neither do I – I don’t ask them to say hi to my ex or anything, but I am quizzed about what their behaviour means and if it reflects my ex’s feelings for me in any way. If they thought I was a douche for sure they'd ignore me. Do they feel sorry for me (since she probably cheated - and they would all know it if she did), is it my ex having regrets, or are they just being friendly because they see me as their friend?... I don't get it! Any thoughts? Edited September 2, 2012 by Sebastian76
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