Author Necromancer Posted September 4, 2012 Author Posted September 4, 2012 They're complete strangers that he has no rapport with and no investment in. If they walk out of his life, so what? They are not in his life to begin with. I'm not saying what he is doing is bad or wrong per se, just highly ineffective and inefficient. I will concede that learning to do cold approaches like this does have some limited value and that is if someone is on the shy side and lacks for some common social skills, I will concede that doing repetitive cold approaches can over time help you overcome some approach anxiety and you can learn some interaction skills. you just have to hope noone calls the police while you are doing it. I think there are a lot of more effective ways to learn social skills and over come social anxiety though. I am not shy nor do i lack social skills. (Just hard meting gals who are my type and like me). I don´t live in the US... i live in Europe. No gal is going to call the police because i approach her.
oldshirt Posted September 5, 2012 Posted September 5, 2012 My problem with this is that you're assuming his "social group" will have mutual female friends amongst their ranks.. Me, personally, most of the people I've ever spent time with was usually one on one or in a group of several people or less.. And they were all dudes. If I was hanging out with a dozen people, they were all guys. At least OP's trying to do something.. Even if it ain't the best method, I'm sure it can be done. He had one decent conversation, at least that's a step in the right direction, socially speaking.. MRCastles advice to the OP was to "BUILD" his social circle. I interpret that as saying to expand or increase ones social circle to include female friends as well as people who have females as friends of theirs. I see your point that if you doing things strictly with dudes that have no female contacts then that probably won't help you. My advice is to EXPAND (add more people) to your social circle that includes guys with female friends and guys that have girlfriends and make some platonic friends with females yourself (and some of those gal's friends may catch your eye) Again, I'm not saying cold-approaching is wrong or bad, just often very time consuming for little gain. There are more efficient ways to meet people and hit it off with them. meetting friends of friends with whom you share some common interests is one of them
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