Ponders Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I was involved in a long distance relationship where I got to see my girlfriend every other weekend for a few days. We made the most of our time together and we really enjoyed each others company which made being in the long distance relationship worthwhile. After being together for 7-8 months, she was soon going to be studying abroad for a semester in Europe. I had decided that not being able to see her for 4 months was not going to work for me so a week prior to her departure, I told her I wanted to take a break from the relationship till she got back and that we would see if we wanted to get back together at that time. She was emotionally distraught about this and insisted we stayed together, but I did not think it would be healthy for either of us. After a few days of coming to terms with the news and dealing with her emotions, we were able to spend her remaining days in the states together. Those last few days were amazing; sexually and emotionally since we both knew we wouldn't see each other for a while. During the 4 months she was away, we spoke on the phone at least once a week and emailed each other frequently even though we were no longer in a relationship. During the time she was gone, I slept with 4 women (ALL WITH PROTECTION). In my mind, I was in denial that she would hook-up with anyone while abroad. I was being extremely naive because she is truly a beautiful girl and foreign men must have been hounding her. When she returned to the states, I had no intention on telling her my sexual history during the past 4 months and I had no interest in hearing hers. Here's where it really starts to get interesting: She came over to my apartment after returning to the states and we had unprotected sex (like we always did since she is on the pill). A week later, I woke up with the symptoms of Chlamydia. (I self diagnosed it after a lot of scary Google searching). I had never been so scared in my life and wanted to call her immediately and say something to her. Instead, I went to planned parenthood, got tested and received the antibiotic shot that cures Chlamydia. After getting myself taken care of, I went to spend the night at her house with the intention of breaking the news to her that she gave me Chlamydia. It took me all night to gain the courage to come out with it, so I asked her how many men she slept with abroad and with a deer in head lights look she said two. Then I dropped the bomb on her that she gave me an STD and she started to cry and say how she felt horrible and that I should hate her. The truth was I wanted to hate her, but I couldn't because I loved her so much. At this point I told her I couldn't jump back in a relationship right away as I was very angry and confused/ sad about the other guys she slept with and the fact that I contracted an STD from her. The next day she went to the clinic and got the antibiotic to be cured as well. We continued to hook-up and hangout over the course of the next month and things were great between us. It felt like we were close to getting back together. Then, one day she told me that we needed to talk. I thought she wanted to talk about whether or not we would start formally dating again, but instead, she informed me that one of the guys from abroad she was hooking up with (which is the same one who gave her the STD) was coming to America to travel for a month and that she told him he could stay with her at her parents house for a week. I was extremely distraught by this news and told her I could no longer see or talk to her anymore as she hurt me too bad by allowing him to come stay with her. She cried hysterically and kept saying that it was just a ****ty situation and that she didn't know what to do. We stopped talking three days before that bastard arrived to America to stayed with her and we have no spoken since. Its been about 1.5 months since we last talked, but I still feel extremely hurt by this whole situation and I can't stop thinking about her. I need to stop thinking about her and this guy who came from Europe to bang my girl. The same ****er who gave me a panic attack because of the STD. What should I do to relieve myself from this mental anguish.
Hawaii50 Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Nothing you can do buddy, except learn your lesson. If you love someone you don't treat them like that, and things won't come back to infect your penis. I understand not wanting a long-distance relationship, but over 4 months, really?! couldn't have just sucked it up maybe read a few books. lol. so yeah, move on and learn your lesson. bout all there is. tough break. 2
crazylove Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Ditto...you were the one that wanted to split up for 12 weeks of 'freedom'! I would think from the silence that your ex girlfriend has probably started seeing the other guy more seriously anyway. If you love someone, you don't treat them the way you treated your girlfriend.... 1
Athena Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Let me get this straight, you made her feel bad by accusing her of giving you an STD, and asked her how many guys she slept with, but you did NOT tell her you banged twice as many other sexual partners as she had?? You are in the wrong. You should have told her your dirty part in all of this, perhaps then, she would have felt like the relationship was more even keeled and she might have then still been dating you now, instead of giving up and being hospitable to her ex lover.... you chose to keep quiet, and now you are suffering from lack of truth-telling. Your keeping your ace up your sleeve back-fired on you buddy. How do you expect her to continue with your relationship when it seemed you were the choir boy, and you made her out to be a slut?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 We stopped talking three days before that bastard arrived to America I need to stop thinking about her and this guy who came from Europe to bang my girl. The same ****er who gave me a panic attack because of the STD. What should I do to relieve myself from this mental anguish. Of course he's in the wrong! What the heck does this have to do with some guy visiting America? Only somebody whose thinking is completely haywire would look for a 3rd-party scapegoat.
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