beef Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I went on my first date Friday night with a girl who I met at work. I thought the date went well, we talked the whole time with no awkward silence, although we didn't share a lot in common and she talked a lot about her ex boyfriends. But regardless, we were both having a good time. When I dropped her off, she gave me a hug and said she works over the weekend and she's off monday, so she'll see me tuesday (when we work the same shift). So I figured this was a bad sign, because surely she would want to see me again sooner, especially on her day off right? But then she text me about 15 mins later "Had lots of fun tonite! Thanks for everything :)"! Then I replied "No problem, thank you for going with me, I also had a lot of fun". So i'm confused as to whether or not she's interested, and now it's the next day (saturday) and she hasn't text me at all, not even hello or anything. Is she just shy and I should text her first? Or should I give up on this one? Surely if she was interested she would text me just to make small talk right? But if she's not, then why even send me a follow up text after the date? Just to be polite? IDK.
xra Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Yes, it's very likely that she sent you that text after your first date to be polite - and she probably did have fun with you. However, many (if not most girls) would expect the guy to make the next contact after a first date - so if she didn't text you the next day, it doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested or doesn't want to see you again... She's probably waiting for you to text her instead It sounds like you're overthinking the whole situation - after all, you've only had one date so far! You can't expect her to make plans to see you again so soon even if it's her day off. Maybe she already had other plans. Maybe she wants to take it slow. Maybe she really wasn't interested in you enough. There's only one way to find out though - make the first contact! Go ahead and text her, ask how her day was (just don't start smothering her with constant texts, which might scare her away). You have nothing to lose. 1
SJC2008 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 More often than not it's a good sign when a woman texts you right after a date, especially without you texting first. I'll put it to you this way, 4 women have initiated contact with me first after a date and only 1 bailed. I seen 2 of them for a second date and chose not to date one of them. So going by MY stats there's a 75% chance she's interested.
CptSaveAho Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Then I replied "No problem, thank you for going with me, I also had a lot of fun". should have responsed with "Im glad someone had fun" really? you had fun listening to all the bad boys she has been with? I would be baffled too if I sat and listened to my date talk about all the losers shes been with and then i sent a text response saying i also had lots of fun
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