waiting4u Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 (edited) I'm 38. I am tired of being single and really want to settle down. I'm also tired of being mistreated by men and being in drama-filled relationships or watching men run away because I'm a single mother. I just want a partner that will stand by me, be there for me and my family and treat me with love and respect. Recently, I've been offered a chance at all these things. It's sort of unusual, but a man I dated 12 years ago and have kept in touch with since then - someone who is level-headed, stoic, responsible, always there for me when I need him (we've talked a lot on the phone and via chat over the years) - has come back into my life romantically and I know he wants something serious. He's told me he's very eager to settle down with a family (I'm sort of a ready-made family). He's been carrying a torch for me all this time - tells other women I was the "love of his life" blah blah. Thing is - I'm not head over heels in love with him. I mean, I suppose I should give it some time, but it's a long distance thing and will involve some traveling (not too far) to get things really going. I'm just not sure if we have the "chemistry" thing. I have tremendous respect for his character. He's good-looking, we have some of the same interests, he has many things I value in a partner, but at this point I don't feel like I want to rip his clothes off. That said, I haven't had much of a sex drive lately so maybe it's a hormone issue lol. Give it some time? Maybe I'm just scared? I'm a very critical person and hard to please. He has some quirks that bug me - but nothing major. Should a person enter into a relationship just for companionship and dependability, or do I really need to be head over heels in love? I've been head over heels - in the end it was one of the worst experiences I've been through. Edited September 1, 2012 by waiting4u
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