lifesjourney Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 (edited) Twelve years ago, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. He cheated on me. we were young and in our twenties. I never got over him but left his cheating behind. Shortly after I met a wonderful man. This wonderful man and I have been married for 10 yrs. HE is a excellent father and provider. I'm 35 and he is 43 years old, before we got married, our sex life was very good, it was never over the top, but I love him and sex only makes up a small portion of a relationship. After our honeymoon, my husband didn't want to have sex with me anymore. I found myself always asking, practically begging for it. We have 3 children and for the first two pregnancies, he did not touch me in any sexual way for the whole nine months and 3 or 4 months after. Once again, I found myself begging for attention. I was told that work was stressful, and I just went with it. I wanted to be that " supportive wife". Not only did I have to deal with no sex but when we did have sex, I always had to take charge and I noticed my husbands erections were not happening. My husband went to the dr, and got meds for this situation. The pills work, but still not that much. I'm very frustrated, I've asked my husband to go to counseling and he says we don't need it. I'm just at a loss for words. 10 yrs later, I am very much in love and miss my ex-boyfriend, who is also married. I feel as if I married my husband because not only is he a wonderful person, but I was also hurt from my break-up. My ex,( who has been contacting me for years)and is also married, tells me how much he loves me and wants to keep in touch because he wants to be with me later on down the road when our kids are of age. I don't believe in divorce because of religious reasons. ( Till death do us part) however, I can't help but to think that I've made a big mistake and I just don't feel like my husband is attracted to me. I've talked to him numerous times, I've asked for counseling and at this point I'm the one left confused and missing my ex even more because I do believe that he is my true soulmate. I met with my ex and we sat and talked and it was like time between us never stopped. I know that he is the one. BTW, I asked my husband about his rejections for 6 for the 10 yrs we've been married and his reason was because marriage sex is not the same as dating sex. I think he cheated but I can not prove it! No man goes that long without touching another woman! He has gotten better, but it is so programmed, I know what's going to happen, when It happens and I'm so bored, tired and sexually frustrated. I feel like cheating!! I don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to. I'm thinking about going to counseling myself. Thank you Edited September 1, 2012 by lifesjourney
xxoo Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 . I'm thinking about going to counseling myself. I think that is a very good idea! Is it possible that your husband is gay? About the ex boyfriend--he cheated on you, and now he is cheating on his wife (I would consider it cheating if my H was saying things like that to another woman). That would be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Go to counseling, and figure out why you would want someone like that at all. 1
Author lifesjourney Posted September 2, 2012 Author Posted September 2, 2012 It has crossed my mind that he might be gay..
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