monkey00 Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 So after months of bad dates and flakey women. I've finally met someone who is definitely GF material, click, consistent, reliable, and has the hots for me. We've been going out for 3 weeks and text almost daily. Though I wonder if I'm getting bored. So far since, I've come across 2 very attractive women on the train. Temptation becomes my enemy. The first time I was on the train to work I was in front of this girl where we both were making eye contact and smiling at each other. Just now I was on the train to my friend's place with a dog as I was dog sitting, this international student broke the ice with me and started chatting and showed me a pic of her dog. I think if I wasn't seeing this girl I would've asked these women out in a heartbeat. They were very very attractive. It's just funny how women fall from the sky when you're not looking or you're doing your own thing. I don't think I really had a problem with this the last time I was in a relationship. But I wonder if being single all this time and dating around has turned me into a commitment phobe, and has turned me into someone who might not be able to stay exclusive to one person. For those of you who are in a LTR, or dating someone exlusively..how do you cope with temptation? Or maybe this girl just isn't cutting it for me?
Titanwolf Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 How do I cope with temptation?... Hmm. There's a special part of my mind and heart (No homo), that's reserved solely for my partner. As long as I don't grant anyone else, access to that part, the rest is easy. Though you appear to be extremely visual, so i don't know if this is relevant.
ThaWholigan Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I have been so infatuated with a girl that I simply did not look at any other in the same way. It's early days for you, and typically when you first start seeing someone your energy becomes more attractive such that women will tend to start noticing you more. Don't ask me why, it's like buses - none come for hours, then soon as one comes, 3 others are behind it. 2
SmileFace Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Temptation will always be there - such is life. However if I am truthfully happy with the person I am with temptation doesn't last long.
Author monkey00 Posted September 1, 2012 Author Posted September 1, 2012 I don't know why, but I feel like I want some drama to happen. Some kind of excitement or catch 22 involving women/the chase. She is relationship material and if I keep this up, it's probably headed there. We haven't had any kind of talk yet, but I just don't know if I'm necessarily ready for a relationship. Saying the above makes me sound like I'm screwed up in the head.. Maybe I fall into the category of 'men who love b*tches'
SmileFace Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I don't know why, but I feel like I want some drama to happen. Some kind of excitement or catch 22 involving women/the chase. She is relationship material and if I keep this up, it's probably headed there. We haven't had any kind of talk yet, but I just don't know if I'm necessarily ready for a relationship. Saying the above makes me sound like I'm screwed up in the head.. Maybe I fall into the category of 'men who love b*tches' I really just want to roll my eyes at this post
Author monkey00 Posted September 1, 2012 Author Posted September 1, 2012 I really just want to roll my eyes at this post Okay, maybe I haven't been completely honest here. There are some qualities about the girl that I don't like or find 'too conservative' for my liking. It is a little bit of a turn off. For the most part though, she has lots of other positive qualities about her that outweigh the bad...I just don't know if it's enough. Would my expectations be too high?
SmileFace Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Okay, maybe I haven't been completely honest here. There are some qualities about the girl that I don't like or find 'too conservative' for my liking. It is a little bit of a turn off. For the most part though, she has lots of other positive qualities about her that outweigh the bad...I just don't know if it's enough. Would my expectations be too high? Whats the point of settling? Rather get out now before you both are too invested.
FitChick Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Just remember how you felt before you met this girl. How you couldn't find anyone suitable or attractive or if you did, they didn't want you. If you don't mind gong back to that life, then go. People don't know when they have it good. 2
the ill-made knight Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Just remember how you felt before you met this girl. How you couldn't find anyone suitable or attractive or if you did, they didn't want you. If you don't mind gong back to that life, then go. People don't know when they have it good. You shouldn't stay with someone just in order to have someone "attractive and/or suitable". OP, it doesn't sound like you are that into this woman. I'd keep dating her, see if your feelings don't strengthen with time, but at this point, I wouldn't enter into anything exclusive with her. Just because someone has good qualities and is generally a good person and would be a good partner doesn't mean you should be with them.
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