Gulf-Delta Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 So yeah, evidently, she didn't deal with that final piece of financial stuff we had. It's a complicated story, but long story short, if she didn't transfer her car from my name to hers, my licence gets suspended. Well, last time we spoke, it was me signing the title and giving it to her. All she had to do was pay the fee, and sign her name at the DMV. Well, it's been 2 months since then, and she hasn't done it. When we spoke she said "I don't have the money right now"...I was understanding, even though she goes out to dinner and bars almost EVERY night. Any advice so I don't go nuclear on her? Thing is, I'm still in love with this girl, and there's so much I want to say to her. But after 2 months NC, I've realized now isn't the time, and when it is right, I can speak to her about it. Now, almost exactly 2 months of NC, fate steps in again (fate likes to toy around with my ex and I, for better or worse) with this crap. Not looking forward to it.
Exit Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 No reason for it to be a real live phone call unless you're trying to find an excuse just to hear her voice. There are ways to make calls direct to someone's voicemail, or send an email, or a text, or a letter. Or pursue the matter through the DMV yourself, this would be no different than transferring the car title over to a stranger and then finding out they didn't finish the paperwork. I think that was your thread I hijacked a while ago were I crapped all over the idea of gigs. I don't mean to be hard on you again, quite the contrary, I want you to start feeling better. So sorry if this comes across harsh but I again am sensing too much of that rose-tinted hopefulness in your post. "now is not the time, when it is right, I can speak to her about it". Odds are there will never be a right time to attempt having an emotional discussion with your ex girlfriend again. Also chalking up this situation to "fate" messing around with you and your ex and forcing you to interact with her again... anyone who isn't viewing this situation from your position (aka in love with this girl) doesn't look at it like a cute little situation where fate is forcing you two to talk on the phone. The only thing I see happening is a lame immature ex girlfriend who didn't take care of some paperwork for two months and is now going to make you waste your own time and effort to try to get it done. Not fate, not love, not happenstance, just a grown adult who can't take care of some paper work. There's no real magical advice on how to handle it. Regardless of which method you choose to contact her, just stick to business. No real need for a conversation either. Just tell her she has had two months to get it done, and she has one more chance to take care of it before she needs to start worrying that there will be a boot on her car in the morning. Can't have a car out on the road that is still in your name but you don't have the title anymore and she hasn't registered it as her car. Wouldn't think she'd be able to accurately have herself insured if she isn't accurately reporting which car she owns and drives, so depending on which state you live in that's a pretty big offense too.
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