My first girlfriend left me...

[Zeb]

I'm very new here, just created my account because I feel like ****. About a little over 1 month ago my very first girlfriend left me... here is the story.

February 17th I started dating this girl online, I met her on Skype trough a friend, I am from the south of Portugal, she is from the center (Lisbon). I really did feel anything for her but I had her number so we texted all day and talked trough Skype, until one night I fell asleep with her on the phone and I felt the butterflies, I fell in love with her there. 3 months later, May, was the month I went to go see her for the first time, I took my mother with me since I was 16 at the time and my mom is paranoid, it's a two hour train ride, I got there, hugged her then we kissed. I spent all day with her we mostly made out and barely talked. 1 month after that, I went to go see her again, because I was going to Canada for vacation for the whole summer, so June 17th I went to the airport 1 ****ing day earlier to be with her, spent the whole day there with her, we went to the bathrooms and we did some sexual **** I wont bother being more specific. That day I gave her my grandmother's bracelet, and I knew she loved me, her pupils we're extremely dilated and I just felt it, I loved her too so ****ing much. We pinky promised each other it would be forever, she made me do it too. So I'm at Canada we skype but don't talk as often because I don't have a phone here. One day she tells me she is going to her cousin's house for a few weeks of vacation (in Alentejo) I just had a bad feeling about it since the start of it. She leaves to her cousin's house and while she is there she barely talks to me, maybe 1 or 2 hours a day, sometimes we wouldn't even get 30 minutes. July 20th 2012, I log on facebook to see that my girlfriend wen't from being in a relationship to single...

 

I go on skype, call her crying like a faggot, trying to understand, her initial response was, "I'm tired of everything, I don't want to be in a relationship", then this changed to, "I don't think I love you anymore, you're like a friend to me now", until I heard from a friend of mine that she had a crush on another guy from that place she was at.

 

I cried like a bitch, and she said she needed time to think on her feelings cause she was 'really confused about them'.

 

Basically, I removed her and blocked her, but I still think about her, and I still think about the few moments I was with her, and the songs I would sing for her. I didn't deserve this, I treated her so well, that's all that I thought that mattered.

 

Anyways, 8 days from now I return to Portugal, I just want to have some advice I feel like ****, I don't know what to do.

 

I was 16 she is 14, I recently turned 17. People in Portugal are way more mature, I don't need to hear the you are too young bull ****.

 

Sorry for the long post.

[bluegreen]

Am sorry cutie and you do seem sweet and cute young boy but for all your maturity and responsibility you can't do thing for hers she is selfish immature and ignorant for her it was fun while it lasted she got few O "feelings" out of it and that was it.

 

If she takes your relationship so easy imagine how will she next one and next one and next one either decade from now she will grow up and change or won't grow up and become .... now am not trying to be harsh but am type who tells it how it is.

 

Broken hearts hurt more then scalpel cuts but you over come them they will always hurt and itch buy less so as time passes don't go after her don't call don't chase this is not someone worth fighting for instead focus on yourself and recovering its not gonna be easy but you will make it we all have been there.

 

 

And in a while you will meet someone else know what to look out for and why

Best of luck to you : )))

[bluegreen]

PS: And please don't use the "fagot" like words here on this forum we are all family and look out for each other skin color religion sexual orientation nationality matters nothing to us.

 

And who the heck told you 'boys" don't cry ?

[Zeb]

PS: And please don't use the "fagot" like words here on this forum we are all family and look out for each other skin color religion sexual orientation nationality matters nothing to us.

 

And who the heck told you 'boys" don't cry ?

 

I'm sorry for using the term, I was a bit sad when I typed in the story. I just don't usually cry, so it makes me feel bad :/

 

Thank you for the support

[Zeb]

what really makes me sad is that she wasn't like this at all, she was a really innocent perfect girl, it all changed when she went to her cousin's house...

[bluegreen]

No she was not that was just face and personality mask that worked for her for that time being.

Plus no one and i mean NO ONE can make anyone do anything they don't want to she choose this cause he wanted that more then she wanted you.

[Zeb]

No she was not that was just face and personality mask that worked for her for that time being.

Plus no one and i mean NO ONE can make anyone do anything they don't want to she choose this cause he wanted that more then she wanted you.

 

You're absolutely right, thank you very much for the response. I hope I'll find someone that will treat me right, soon.

[TaraMaiden]

She treated you right.

 

It just ended. Your perception is that it ended badly, and yeah, maybe it did. but I'm telling you now, don't ever believe in a million years that you would NEVER do that to anyone else - because in high-strung emotional situations, we are all guilty sometimes of letting our hearts rule our heads, and when emotion takes charge, the results are always screwy.

Given your ages, time and distance, I would have said this was destined to happen. Almost guaranteed.

 

And yeah - The words 'faggot' and Bitch' are not appreciated in that context here.

There are many long-time members of all persuasions.... so what you write defines who you are, in everyone's eyes.

Not what others are....

[bluegreen]

You are very welcome : ))

And yes you will why would you ever not when you are living in country of such a fabulous beauty one day soon you will laugh at this experience and say : Man how silly I was but it still was valuable one.