ginastar Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 my ex broke up with me a little over 2 years ago. Since then he texts me every 3-4 months. Our conversation is usually small talk and led to meeting up 3 times. We are on good terms now so I do not mind it, but I am wondering if many dumpers end up doing this also?
pathetic1999 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 No but I wouldn't stand for it, contact me for reconciliation or none at all is how I left it. Maybe after quite some time and MAYBE but not that random.
pathetic1999 Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I suppose I mis-understood the relationship status, but is it really friends when it's only contact every 3-4 months?
Author ginastar Posted September 3, 2012 Author Posted September 3, 2012 well i dont know if i would consider us friends. we are friendly, but i talk and hang out with my "friends" much more than every 3-4 months. plus i do not see him each time he contacts. also, if he was a friend I think he would mention his GIRLFRIEND or ask if I even have a boyfriend, but he never brings this up. anyway, why do you think I should ignore him either way? I just was wondering if anyone knew what is his point of being up to date on my life or why he bothers to see whats new with me, being that he dumped me?
Regrets58 Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 It is still possible to like and care about someone,even if you don't want to be with them romantically. Under the circumstances I would take it at face value. He is perhaps being thoughtful by not mentioning his gf etc. Sometimes there are no ulterior motives for exes to stay in touch. If it feels ok to you to be in touch,why worry?
Consultant Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I am in touch with my main ex-girlfriends before my recent relationship of 4 years. We don't talk on a regular basis or anything, but chat casually through email every so often. Obviously, there are no feelings left there as it was so long ago. I find this to be normal. The only way it wouldn't be right is if the ex was playing mind games and somehow giving you "false hope" for something more. However, if the original relationship was serious enough, he may just care about you enough as a person to not lose contact completely. Nothing wrong with that and I hope with time and maturity, the same can happen with my ex.
meeji Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I have a similar relationship with one of my exes. We text more than 3-4 month intervals. I'd say that I hear from at least 2x a month if not more. The interval of communication is not so important i don't suppose. When people have history together that bridges the gap between the distance. My Best friend lives states away and we don't see each other so often but that doesn't affect our friendship or trust between each other. I guess for older adults, the terms for relationships change and are very different from the standard for younger people. I would say its weird. Most people are probably used to hearing about Nasty Breakups. Ours was, but that was over 10 years ago..so we can be civil.
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