Hatelife Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I think my husband is cheating but I have no proof. Im suspicious of everything he says and does. It's driving me crazy. I check pockets and find nothing. I check his cell phone and find nothing. Am I overreacting? He's messed up in the past with numbers and phone call no actual infidelity so am I just anxious? I can't relax and I know he's getting frustrated. He's also not the most talkative person so any question irritates him and hes very independant . Help!
drifter777 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 There must be some reason you are suspicious - what is it?
Author Hatelife Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 (edited) Just the past mishaps. If he could mess up before then why wouldn't he mess up again. Just don't want to be surprised. Don't think I'm very forgiving. I just don't trust and don't know how to get trust back. Edited August 31, 2012 by Hatelife Spelling 1
GLDheart Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Clearly his past "mess ups" still bother you. Is there something about the past you feel is still unresolved?
jocy_20 Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I'm slightly in the same position in with suspicions and the answers do not seem enough to me :\
BetrayedH Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 What does, "He's messed up in the past with numbers and phone call" mean? We need some details in order to help you.
DBella Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 Trust your gut. Every time I have had that gut feeling, I've been right. 2
Author Hatelife Posted September 1, 2012 Author Posted September 1, 2012 (edited) In the past I've found an email with a picture of him and another woman. A stripper but still another woman therfore I check his email (with him) and it still doesn't seem like enough. I've found a text message from another woman so now I constantly check his phone but that doesn't seem like enough either. I'm just really frustrated and uptight all the time now and I don't know if I'm making to much out of this. I really want to relax and get back to thinking he's the one. Oh and we have kids together and I had a moment where I aired his dirty laundry in a family talk session. His response was to break down and cry and tell us he was wrong and it won't happen again but I still can't relax. I dont know what to do. Edited September 1, 2012 by Hatelife spelling
veryhappy Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 You have all the reasons to be suspicious. What more proof do you want? You found a picture with a stripper and a text from another woman. What do you think he was doing with the other woman? If you found all the proof you wanted that he's been cheating on you, what would you do?
DBella Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 In the past I've found an email with a picture of him and another woman. A stripper but still another woman therfore I check his email (with him) and it still doesn't seem like enough. I've found a text message from another woman so now I constantly check his phone but that doesn't seem like enough either. I'm just really frustrated and uptight all the time now and I don't know if I'm making to much out of this. I really want to relax and get back to thinking he's the one. Oh and we have kids together and I had a moment where I aired his dirty laundry in a family talk session. His response was to break down and cry and tell us he was wrong and it won't happen again but I still can't relax. I dont know what to do. Those are red flags. Don't ignore them. Oh, and don't ever think because he took a pic with a stripper that he couldn't have cheated at all. In many places strippers make a lot of money from sex in the champagne room and even in other places like hotels. I personally know guys who have slept with strippers and I also know some girls who work as strippers, so I've heard stories from both sides. There is prostitution involved in a lot of strip joints. Like I said before, trust your gut.
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