buddy211 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Hi, My GF and I originally planned to move in together next fall (fall 2013) to Boston, a city we each know nothing about. This will be for school reasons. We have a 16 m/o baby together. We are both 21 y/o. Here is the thought that came to mind and I would like your opinions and advice on. - We post-pone the move til 2014, she and our baby move in with me in my hometown (where we first met). We both know the place, we are able to save money while still getting used to living together, my family will be able to help with watching baby while we are at school/work. This in my mind would work as a trial living together period for about a year-year-and-a-half to see if we really want to make a huge change and move together to Boston. Right now we both have jobs and are in school, and we both are saving for the move in Boston. She lives with her parents currently, so she receives much help. What are your opinions about this trial living together period, or any advice on two young adults moving in together, or info on the Boston area would be appreciated. Thank you.
january2011 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 My first thought is, why is this a trial? You have a young child whose existence links you both together for the rest of your lives. In my opinion, you need to be working towards living together permanently and not on a "see if it works out" basis. Otherwise, you really are missing out on the child's very important formative years. Having said that, I understand that there are practical and financial concerns that make the situation less than ideal for the both of you and your child to be in the same place. You need to prioritise and the location you choose will depend on what you've decided is your highest priority: your child, education, job. Whichever makes the most sense that allows you to keep your head above water and altogether in the same location is probably the best choice.
justwhoiam Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I don't know but, AFAIK, it's easier for a guy to live with her family than it is for a girl to live with his parents. That as a general rule. Moms usually run the house, and if it's her mom running the house, there'd be less conflicts. That's also true with a baby. Your mom interfering could be a negative aspect. Maybe it's not your case and everything will be fine. Ask yourself: In case conflict arises, can I stand by my gf? Will my parents intrusion affect the relationship with my new family? (gf & baby)
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