"Women want to be PART OF the adventure, but they don't want to BE the adventure."

[Imajerk17]

Agree or disagree? Discuss.

[ThaWholigan]

This is why it's often a good idea to "get a life" . Living an interesting enough life. But again, don't do it for women's benefit. For your own. Have a life that interests you and your aspirations and goals, broaden your horizons.

 

This is part of the equation though, not the whole.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I don't even get it.

 

If you are saying that I didn't want to "be" a sexual adventure for a man when I was dating, that's true. I think that would mean being a conquest.

 

If I wanted to have a sexual adventure with a man, though, that would be a different story.

 

If what you are saying is that generic "women" just want to be along for the adventurous ride of some guy's life - well, not me. That is a passive role that can be played by men or women, though I'll grant you that women are primed to play it societally more than men are.

 

I view life as an adventure; sometimes a horrid one. When people get together, they are sharing the adventure. Thus, they are both "part of the adventure." Neither one of them IS the adventure.

[MrCastle]

I don't even get it.

 

Basically that a man shouldn't dedicate his life to women. Thanks to society and the media, it puts pressure on men to have sex with women. If you're a virgin, you're not a real man. So men kill themselves trying to become successful with women when that should only be one part of your life and not the be all end all.

 

If you focus on your hobbies/interests, your education/career and overall bettering yourself as an individual, women will be there for the ride.

 

If you live your life doing things to get laid, you will have a harder time landing women.

 

Women don't want a guy who lives and breathes for success with women, women don't want to be objectified and pedistalized in that manner. They'd rather a man who lives an interesting life and doesn't focus his entire life on sex.

[MrCastle]

Women don't want to be put on a pedestal? You jest surely.

 

They do, but not by romantic partners. By their guy friends. Women respect a man who challenges them. Who isn't afraid to tell her no. Who stands his ground and sticks by his beliefs. Women don't respect yes men, men who over compliment them, etc etc.

[january2011]

I don't want to take on hitchhikers or travel in separate cars. I want a co-driver in the same car. In that sense, yes, I agree.

[xxoo]

I understood it to mean that women want an adventurous, exciting guy, but not a guy who seeks women for adventure and excitement. We want a guy who is exciting and adventurous in other ways, but stable and committed in the relationship.

 

And yes, I'd agree