SDlovee09 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 im currently pregnant with his baby, i am 18 weeks and have only been together with him for about that amount of time. were both 19 yrs old. my situation: right now, its a long distance relationship. i visit every so often. last time i visited him, i got in his car and the name 'Becca' was written on his car window(like you write when theyre foggy). he said it was his (guy)friend who wrote it and i asked why he would write that. he said he didnt know so i had my bf text his friend and ask him. he asked him "what did you write on my car window" his friend said "i tried drawing a heart". so i texted his friend saying "whos becca" and his friend said "becca?" and i said "abe(my bf) said you drew 'becca' on his car window. whos becca" and he said "oh i used to call him that a long time ago" and when i asked my bf about it he didnt remember him ever calling him becca. if his friend really did write it then why wouldnt he tell my bf he wrote becca? all he said was that he tried drawing a heart..? and also, the handwriting was really girly(cursive and with a really creative girly B) next situation: i was showering in his shower one morning and i saw a little pink bottle. i read it and it said "eye makeup remover". why would he have eye makeup remover when he doesnt wear makeup? he said his mom gave it to him and he uses it as a face wash. anyway, i just want opinions on these two situations. idk if im being paranoid or if theres a chance hes cheating. would appreciate honest, sincere answers.
strongnrelaxed Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 It looks shady to me. You should move on. I am sorry about the baby. You should think real hard about why you let him impregnate you. Did he rape you? Is this an unplanned pregnancy? Go to your local Planned Parenthood right away and get counseling. I mean like TODAY.
KatZee Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 i had my bf text his friend and ask him. he asked him "what did you write on my car window" his friend said "i tried drawing a heart". Have you ever met this friend? If you haven't I wouldn't be surprised if this "male friend" is really the female with the name changed in the phone contacts so you're none the wiser. My ex pulled that stunt. The handwriting was cursive, it was a female's name. And the story with his friend doesn't even match. "He" drew a heart, what was on the window was no heart. You can't confuse a heart with the name "Becca." next situation: i was showering in his shower one morning and i saw a little pink bottle. i read it and it said "eye makeup remover". why would he have eye makeup remover when he doesnt wear makeup? he said his mom gave it to him and he uses it as a face wash. Does he really think you're that stupid? His mother gave him "eye makeup remover" ?? Every woman on earth knows what eye makeup remover is for. It's for mascara, eyeliner, etc. No woman would give someone oily eye makeup remover and say, "Hey use this to wash your face." Shady, shady, shady.
oaks Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 anyway, i just want opinions on these two situations. idk if im being paranoid or if theres a chance hes cheating. would appreciate honest, sincere answers. I think someone is telling stories.
Quiet Storm Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I know you are pregnant and you want this to work out, but you can't ignore reality. Sometimes our brain does this little coping trick called denial, when we aren't emotionally ready to handle the truth. With what you have discovered, any reasonable person would logically conclude that he has had a woman in his car and in his home. He is a liar and a cheater. You have chosen a person of poor character to be the father of your baby. Focus on you and your baby, and don't get wrapped up in this guy. Do not depend on him and guard your heart. You are no longer looking out for your own well-being anymore. You have another life inside of you to love and protect. You and the baby need a positive environment, filled with joy, smiles and security. Not lies, tears and doubt. He is showing you who he is. It's up to you to believe him.
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