Mariana345 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 AAaaargh!! I'm mad at me for posting this but my head will not ease until I have some opinions... Do you think there is a posibility for reconciliation after your dumper left you for someone else? I mean, after a long term relationship (5 years) and a period of problems like falling in routine, lots and lots of fights and having nothing to talk to for some months at the end. If so, what would you think will make this reconciliation happen, completely NC (I am doing it anyway, can't talk to him, I have too much pride...) or what? Have you seen it happen?
aanderson088 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I'm in the same situation. It's painful being in this limbo.
geegirl Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 AAaaargh!! I'm mad at me for posting this but my head will not ease until I have some opinions... Do you think there is a posibility for reconciliation after your dumper left you for someone else? I mean, after a long term relationship (5 years) and a period of problems like falling in routine, lots and lots of fights and having nothing to talk to for some months at the end. If so, what would you think will make this reconciliation happen, completely NC (I am doing it anyway, can't talk to him, I have too much pride...) or what? Have you seen it happen? AAaaargh!! I'm mad at me for posting this but my head will not ease until I have some opinions... Do you think there is a posibility for reconciliation after your dumper left you for someone else? I mean, after a long term relationship (5 years) and a period of problems like falling in routine, lots and lots of fights and having nothing to talk to for some months at the end. If so, what would you think will make this reconciliation happen, completely NC (I am doing it anyway, can't talk to him, I have too much pride...) or what? Have you seen it happen? No one can predict the future. This is that ugly word called hope. You can play all sorts of scenarios in your head but you will never find and answer nor can anyone on this board provide your with some sort of answer that's going to alleviate what you feel. He left you for someone else. Accept that it is a break up. Granted you harbor hope, but planning and scheming with regards to reconciliation is futile. Besides, reconciliation will happen if/when he decides he wants to because he holds the power. Even with that you have no control or any sort of understanding as to where his mind and heart dwells. So how can anyone or even you answer these questions? Besides if anyone has seen it happen, every situation and every person is different. Grasping at straws at this point. You need to learn to let go. Three months ago you were dangling NC as a form of trying to get him back and you still on the wrong track to nowhere.
lil hoodlum Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I would say on the plus side 5 years is a long time. That means the relationship had to have been pretty good for quite some time. I would think that would be hard to walk away from. (Of course my ex walked away from a 4.5 year good relationship.) The negatives: the routine does get a little old sometimes. The fighting is a major negative, there must have been alot of tension. Time apart will help tension go away. The nothing to talk about for several months at the end is another huge negative. That might indicate that both partners have given up. Anythings possible though. The new person may not be all that great. Your ex may rediscover all of the pluses the relationship had (i.e. compatibilties, shared history, and intamacy) Hold your chin up and keep walking forward!
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