simpsonic Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 So on OKC this guy emailed me. He is good looking (not a supermodel but still good looking). Unlike most of the others who send generic "Hey how are you" messages, he sent a more thought-out one, touching on certain parts of my profile. Then he proceeded to tell me that he wasn't a big fan of email exchanges, but thought I was gorgeous and wanted to know if I wanted to grab a drink sometime. I'm used to exchanging a few emails before meeting, so I thought this was a bit sudden. Have any of you been in this situation? Is this something I should be wary about?
Greznog Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 If he's attractive he can afford to get right down to business, as long as you meet in a public place nothing can really go wrong.
It's Just Me Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Proceed with caution. Have a phone conversation first. But see where it goes, for sure.
Silly_Girl Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 As long as you keep safe - do it! Get to the real stuff sooner rather than later. Excellent. It's no different to being approached at a party.
TigerCub Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Agree with those that stressed being safe - meeting in public place, etc. Other than that, I honestly don't see why not. A lot of people who do online dating complain about how its constant emails/messages that lead to nothing. So why not meet and see if you click? 1
oaks Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 He wants to meet you. If more emails serves a purpose for you then do it that way, but I'm a fan of meeting early. I never know if I want a second date until the first date, regards of the level of communication before the first date. I find that I can't get to know someone without meeting them, so too much pre-date communication is a waste of time.
Imajerk17 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 There's nothing you can really find out about someone over email and even over phone that will guarantee that the guy is safe. Meet him for drinks somewhere public and see what happens.
mortensorchid Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 It's a good thing he wants to meet you, most of those on OLD just get into penpal situations. But have a chat on the phone first, you don't know what you are/aren't getting into.
Author simpsonic Posted September 2, 2012 Author Posted September 2, 2012 I decided not to meet up with him. I checked out his profile and in the "Looking for" section he put down new friends, short-term dating and casual sex. I, however, am looking for an LTR. So I figured we shouldn't waste each other's time. 2
LeoNguyen Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 I decided not to meet up with him. I checked out his profile and in the "Looking for" section he put down new friends, short-term dating and casual sex. I, however, am looking for an LTR. So I figured we shouldn't waste each other's time. Good for you simpsonic. Some women may feel the urge and meet up with him anyway just because he's good looking or they're feeling a bit lonely. This is a perfect example of why it's a great idea to let men know what it is that you want early on (not months later on). It's also the best time to be talking about deal breakers (marriage or no marriage, kids or no kids, where to live after marriage, etc...)
SJC2008 Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Score one for the ladies for not getting pumped and dumped by the good looking men who ruin OLD for regular men!
Radu Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 Well, chances are he is sexually attracted to you, so be carefull of men like these ! Seriously now, just talk on the phone, meet in public place, use common sense. PS: Is the fact that he called you gorgeus why you are a bit weary ?
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