Sophie99 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 (edited) So its been nearly 9 months since I was dumped by my boyfriend of 2 years who I had completely fallen in love with. He had told me he loved me, right up until an hour before he ended it. Everything he had said to me I believed and I trusted him whole heartedly, but much of it turned out not to be true. It was a struggle to get over him, and I'm still not 100% there yet, but when I met a guy at a festival I began to see that there ARE other guys out there who can make me happy. We spent the weekend together, I told him how things had been for me this year and that if he wanted someone just to hook up with over the weekend then I wasn't what he was looking for (this didn't push him away at all, in fact he told me how his ex had cheated on him and hurt him in much the same way). After I had told him that we still connected massively, he told me he really liked me and wanted to get to know me after the weekend and look my number. And then when we got home.... NOTHING. I didn't hear from him at all. I feel like I'm trying my best to protect myself even if it means pushing guys away, but even when I think I've found someone that I can put at least some trust in they prove me wrong. I don't want to push every guy away but I don't want to keep getting hurt. Edited August 31, 2012 by Sophie99
Author Sophie99 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 Isn't it obvious that it's impossible to trust anyone? Of course, it can be difficult to trust yourself: Generally involves over-estimation and underestimation of one's skills (off-topic). You get the point, right? In a relationship, you take on risk. And it's an investment. Know where to buy and sell. So, buy into the new relationship, and sell when it gets too risky. so trust no one?
M30USA Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I've never had trust issues until now, after my 5 year marriage is ending. I always used to wonder why people were so paranoid about trusting. Now I know why. It's like you're in a battle with the person and every single thing they do is interpreted by you (whether correctly or incorrectly) as trickery, self-gain, or deception.
M30USA Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Relationships are really an economic partnership. People can deny that all they want, but it really comes down to being an economic partnership. They can cover it up with I love yous and whatever else they want, but the bare bones thing is that they're trading stuff. And as in the stock market, you want to reduce your risk as much as possible with your investment. Sad but true. And the expectation a spouse puts on you can be enormous--some even more than others. I find that the happiest spouses are those who just live their life without high expectation. Do not confuse me, I don't mean they have low expectations, either. I mean they just kind of...live and let live. They enjoy a simple life with each other's company and don't get all psycho if the other person doesn't do what they want/say.
Author Sophie99 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 They enjoy a simple life with each other's company and don't get all psycho if the other person doesn't do what they want/say. This does seem like the best way
kae Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 i dont look at relationships are a business partnership. I look at it as a spiritual partnership. I think life is too tricky and unpredictable like the free market/economic system.. i dont need a man with money.. i need a man with principles. People thinking in such shallow terms is why people are choosing wrongly. relationships are time centred not money centred therefore creating a naturally conflicting dynamic.. love needs time but people want to buy love either with potential earning perjections or or whatever added assets they bring. a priciple man brings peace of mind. you can`t buy that. can`t buy love! Relationships maybe monetary unions to some.. but not ME! im not a sell out! ...and yeah i do value money.. in case ur wondering..
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