Having a wonderful relationship but wanting to have sex with others

[Manick]

Hello my friends. I think that I found the girl of my dreams. We have a 1.5 year relationship and things are perfect as time passes. The thing is that sometimes I want to have sex with a gorgeous woman for one night, so as to have the experience. My girlfriend is a normal and sweet person and I think she is very beautiful. Iam talking about extremely beautiful girls because I never had sex before (I did it for the first time with this girl) with one of them. AmI crazy?? I think this many times but I know that I won't find another girl as the one I have now. I feel wonderful with her. It is just a matter of....having sex. Not making love....

 

 

What's your opinion?

[Debster]

Either decide to control these feelings, tell your girlfriend you want to be able to fu*K others (and see if she will go for it), or break up.

[HokeyReligions]

The orifice is the same no matter what she looks like. Maybe you should just try to spice up your sex life now. What about role-play? That can be fun. Costumes, wigs, new places, different music.... Curiosity is one thing, but don't ruin a relationship over sex.

 

PS: Love the Avatar. Pirates of the Caribbean is a great movie! (And really bad eggs!)

[sally1530]

You want your cake and eat it too.... makes me sick! Some men are never happy with what they got.... they always think the grass is always greener on the other side, until they get there and the grass is all brown.

[Manick]

I agree with the last one. I dont wnat to ruin this wonderful relationship. I should admit that sexually things with her a little bit difficult, as she also did it for the first time and doesnt feel comfortable to many things around sex...

 

P.S. I agree about the movie. i love it!!

[Butterfly_Queen]

You need to decide whats more important to you. A loving, meaningful, and monogomus relationship with who you have in your life, or going to get laid with others.

 

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All that giltters, isn't always gold!

[Manick]

I agree with you, you're right. Thanks people for your responses, they really helped me!

Cheers

[havNfun]

If you think you might marry her, I would suggesting having sex with a couple beautiful girls now to try it and get it out of your system. Surely your girlfriend will understand that you have to sew at least a couple oats before married? Anyway, if you don't have a couple of these girls now, it might hurt your future marriage because you will always be wondering about it.

[honey2005]

Surely your girlfriend will understand that you have to sew at least a couple oats before married?

If I was the gf I wouldn't understand.

[Pained]

I wouldn't understand either. Men don't wither up and die if they don't "sow their oats".

 

I hate to break it to you, but you could find the most gorgeous woman in the world, and she could be TERRIBLE in bed. Gorgeous doesn't equate sexual powerhouse. It just means that you have to put a little less effort into your looks. If anything, I think that makes you less lazy. The more unattractive girls are sometimes better lovers, because they've had to develop other talents to compensate.

 

If this was your girlfriend's first time too, then you need to be patient. Unlike men, we don't get the upset in sex. Many of us can't have orgasms during sex without also masturbating, sex REALLY F***ing hurts when you're new to it, and we're constantly bombarded by media images telling us what we should be and how we should act.

[havNfun]

you could find the most gorgeous woman in the world, and she could be TERRIBLE in bed

 

Pained - isn't that statement an oxymoron?

 

The more unattractive girls are sometimes better lovers, because they've had to develop other talents to compensate.

 

guys don't care about other talents much. Guys are visual and also like to feel proud of the conquest.

Given this, a hot woman is necessarily going to be good in bed.

[ThisGirlNameKD]

It's not about the sex. It's about the high. When you have sex with one person all the time, it can become common or predictable. You want something stronger, and a new encounter tends to present stronger feelings. When you start wanting to have sex with other people, you're chasing a high...that strong sexual attraction and intense sexual feeling you have in the beginning of a relationship that makes sex feels SO GOOD!!!!

 

Even if it's just a one night thing, and you don't want a relationship, that's what you're chasing. If you do not feel serious enough to commit yourself in a relationship and be loyal and faithful, then you need to leave your girlfriend alone. No girl would like it or permit her boyfriend to sleep around with other women.

[havNfun]

ThisGirl,

I agree with you to a certain extent - that it is kind of like chasing a high. But in this situation he has never experienced the particular thing he mentions. He might be married to his girlfriend for 70 years etc. We only live once. Why should he not experience this "high" a couple times before THEN committing to her and to being faithful? Otherwise, she is going to have to compete with some fantasy in his mind of what "hot" girls are like in bed. If beautiful women aren't necessarily better in bed - then let him have a few and see for himself while dispelling the fantasy so his future wife won't have to compete with it forever.

 

So from this, we can consider that perhaps it is actually a kind move towards his girlfriend (and future wife), and it will be in her best interest for him to have sex with a "few" hot women, for a short time, and be done with it?

[honey2005]

Why should he not experience this "high" a couple times before THEN committing to her and to being faithful? Otherwise, she is going to have to compete with some fantasy in his mind of what "hot" girls are like in bed.

 

If my boyfriend told me he "needed" to sleep with a gorgeous woman to get it out of his system before he married me, I would leave and never look back. If he tells his gf this, not only will she and her self esteem be hurt severly because he doesn't think of her as gorgeous, but I wouldn't be surprised if she left him for a guy who was willing to committ to her 100%, whether she is "gorgeous" or not. You don't get to decide when you meet someone and fall in love with them. After you committ yourself to that one person, you should only be with that person. You can't say "Honey, I met you before I got a chance to have sex with some beautiful women. Do you mind if we take a break so I can go sleep with them?" How would you feel if your girlfriend told you she wanted to be with a sexier man, or that she always heard sex with a guy with a huge penis was great, so she wants to go try that. If you're willing to let her go, then I really don't think that's love. For either her or yourself.

[ThisGirlNameKD]

I agree with Honey2005. If this guy is not ready to be in a commited relationship, then he should leave the girlfriend alone. That would be the loving thing to do, instead of doing something completely selfish like asking for her permission to sleep around. If you don't want to be faithful to the girl, why keep her hanging on when she could find someone that can be and wants to be faithful to her??

[Pained]

I stand corrected. Let me rephrase - a man worth sleeping with cares more about technique and sensation than he does about conquest and saying, "I got a hot chick." I've noticed that men who only care about the latter tend to make lousy lovers, mostly because they're ignorant twits.

[ThisGirlNameKD]

You're so right Pained. A man that's on the conquest does make a lousy lover because he's only thinking about his own satisfaction. He's not all that interested in trying to please the girl.

[havNfun]

A man that's on the conquest does make a lousy lover

 

well perhaps this is true. But it isn't relevant here because the OP

is not looking for love elsewhere or to be a "good lover" to someone.

He is looking to score/conquest etc. with a couple hotties.

 

After you committ yourself to that one person, you should only be with that person.

 

yes I agree with your thoughts on committment. But the OP is not committed YET.

Sure, after wedding bells ring people should stop looking elsewhere.

That is why it is important for him to ask this permission, and get with these girls,

and get it out of his system.

[honey2005]

But the OP is not committed YET.

Sure, after wedding bells ring people should stop looking elsewhere.

That is why it is important for him to ask this permission, and get with these girls,

and get it out of his system.

 

Even if you're not married, just in a relationship with someone, they are still committed to you and should only be with you. Unless of course they ask, like you said, but I think any sane woman who's bf asks to sleep with "a couple of hotties" would walk away hurt and angry.

[Pained]

I think you should go ahead and sleep with any gorgeous women you want so you can fulfill this fantasy. Of course, be warned...if they sleep with you easily without caring about a relationship, chances are they've slept with a lot of other guys who don't care either. So use protection. Oh, and do make sure to look your best. Just because they're gorgeous doesn't mean they'll find you to be so.

 

Or maybe you can stay with your wonderful girlfriend, who doesn't sleep around and loves you for who are. Wow, what a concept.

[havNfun]

although, you might have better luck with them after you get married.

 

Women tend to find married men more attractive for some reason. Probably because it makes them more of a challenge and less accessable.

[Mr Spock]

Can't be THAT great of a relationship then, can it?

[havNfun]

Can't be THAT great of a relationship then, can it?

 

nope