paperboy48 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I have been split from my wife for 9 months....I am getting to the point in coping where I no longer think about the times we had. For a long time I couldn't drive by a drug store in the area without thinking about a time when we were there together. Now, it's all of the stuff I hear about her doing that bothers me. I hear about these things from my daughter who likes to tell me. I.e. Her boyfriend (who has never been married and has no kids) has a chevy Monte Carlo (I always wanted that car, I even took one home once for a 24 hour test drive, we decided it wasn't practical because we were going to have kids). Her boyfriend has a house on the lake with jet skis. Yesterday, she called the kids at my place from a pre- season Giants/Patriots game which she was there with him. Today, she called the kids letting them know she got a new car..they don't remember what it is. Basically, I think she is LOVING her new life...me not so much. I have been living at my parents house for 9 months waiting for our house to sell, house sold recently..I just put offer on a house. So when will I not care or be effected by what she is doing in her life?
Scott68 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I am 2 years post D and I can say it has only been since I found someone-not a rebound relationship as all that did was make me saddder-that I don't care what she does. My situation is not the usual though, I have sole custody of my girls their mother is not allowed any contact with them so I don't have to talk about her or hear about her. I also know that at least financially she is a mess and have seen pics and she looks like she has AIDS but I no longer need to care and don't. Good luck and it WILL get better. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 just laugh my friend when it all comes crashing down for her!.......... You'll get there, it's like weining yourself off a drug...... look up...look forward..... big love brother! 1
weallfalldown Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I am 2 years post D and I can say it has only been since I found someone-not a rebound relationship as all that did was make me saddder-that I don't care what she does. My situation is not the usual though, I have sole custody of my girls their mother is not allowed any contact with them so I don't have to talk about her or hear about her. I also know that at least financially she is a mess and have seen pics and she looks like she has AIDS but I no longer need to care and don't. Good luck and it WILL get better. mate i have custody of my daughter.....
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