call me eazy Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Thanks for taking the time to read my situation, im just so confused and have no idea whats going on with my girlfriend anymore. I been going out with her for 2 years and everything has been just great with her, i was the first person she ever slept with, i was her first real love and longest relationship, i mean ive been in many relationships, but have never received the love and appreciation she has given me, ive met her whole family and shes met mine, and everything just seemed to be going great, then out of no where she just started to become distant, cold and started wanting to spend less time with me, so i asked her about it and she said she was just having a hard time with school, and wanted more time to spend with her dad and homework and just time alone, this all came as a shock to me since she never really cared much for school and didnt really like been home at all specially with her dad, it was her the one that wanted to be around me all the time, she would sometimes come see me at my house before school and sometimes after, and she was anxious for weekends because they were just for me and her, i didnt like the idea of not seen her until weekends, i guess because i was just so used to seen her for at least an hour or so after school, but i accepted her request for some space. then the arguments began... i was just trying to figure things out since i never had to ask her to spend time with me, because it was always her the one that wanted to be with me, and i would ask her why she was acting so distant, she would just get mad at the me for asking her about it, i would say.. im giving you your space just stop acting distant, and she would get mad at me for bringing it up, this when on for about a week until one day through chat she tells me that i had to make a choice because because she didnt have the strength to take that decision, she asked me if i would go on a break or finish the relationship, i said ive had enough of you been cold and distant with me and all i been trying to do is give you your space, so i broke up with her and told her i would let her know when i left back to my hometown if she wanted to say goodbye (i moved near her) she just said fine, i said bye, 2 days later she calls me and says im gunna go pick up my things from your.. (she stops talking) and breaks down, she just started crying telling me she missed me so much and that she couldn't take the pain anymore, that she was in class and she just broke in tears in front of everyone, i felt so bad for what she was going through and told her to come home so we could talk, at home she just ran and hugged me and started crying, telling me that she never thought i would actually break up with her, said she was sorry for even thinking about it and she asked me to be her bf again. so whats the hell is the problem? well shes still acting distant and cold, she still would rather be home watching movies then with me, (she dosent even like movies) im tired of having to deal with it, and i cant even ask her about it because it will turn into an argumet, and we are both just so tired of fighting (specialy her) I want things back to the way they used to be, where she wouldn't stop calling me and wanting to know where i was, and trying to make as much time in her day to be with me, i had nothing to complain about, with her i had it all, and now im just so confused.. Facts: Im tired, and shes tired of fighting. she lost attraction for me. shes acting cold and distant. I been a idiot and could have handled this whole thing better. she needs her time and space. she loves me, and is good at showing it. i love her too, and not so good at showing it. shes a very sentimental person. we are currently together. im scared to loose her and have had a hard time hiding it from her. for the first time shes in control of the relationship. If i had to give my self advice i would say.. stop been a vagina and give her all the time she needs, and some more! she lost attraction for you, and now the only way you'll get it back is to disappear... My questions: what am i doing wrong? what can i do? weekend is coming up and we always hang out... should i not see her? or what should i do when i do see her? give it to me straight, i really need help.... thanks!!
Mint Sauce Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 it's a classical reply to a story like yours on here, but still: where's the other guy? She seems torn. Possibly between you and a new guy... I think you need to ask her man to woman whether she has feelings for another one.
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