IamSecond Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I did not know where to post this, I recently moved out of our house, my husband and I have been married for 27 years and I recently started noticing he has been lying about drinking and our finances. He was injured at work and now needs surgery, but because he is having a hard time controlling his recently diagnosed diabetes, they will not do the surgery. He insists that the doctor is the one holding up the operation, and the doctor keeps trying to explain to him he(my husband) is the one in control "you need to eat better, and not only rely on the medication to "fix" your sugar levels." To say the least we have been under a tremendous amount of pressure. I have been told by several people that we should just move in together as "room mates" so that I can keep my studio and we are not paying high divorce fees and double on rents, and bills. I am thinking about it, but I want to make sure I have something in writing that this is a financial agreement to live together, not a reconciliation. Any thoughts? I know it was a bit lengthy, but I had to give a bit of history. And, to answer any question, no, neither one of us is having an affair, I for one would not enter into one before I leave one.
january2011 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I for one would not enter into one before I leave one. What about him? Living together means that you have the financial ties but not necessarily the emotional ones. Are you sure that you can stand by and let him make poor decisions about his health and life and not really have a say because you're not his wife anymore? Can you stay out of his "business" when it comes to his personal life? Can you put up with the pain of watching him be with another woman?
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