slackerkk Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 My girlfriend and I have been dating for the last 5 months and have basically been together otherwise for 8 months. Sex used to be extremely constant basically every time we hung out, which was 2-5 times a week. Then she started to feel constantly tired a couple months ago and what not, sex was still as it was, just every once in a while she would just not be interested in it. Then she went to the doctors finally and it came back that she has a thyroid issue. She has always been the type that "the guy" should make the first move, she would give hints and such that she wanted it but very subtle hints, nothing obvious. So i was still initiating sex when we hung out but i could tell her interest level in it was dropping. So i finally asked her about it and what's going on and what not. She said its not usually like her to want sex she always wants it and the doctor said this could be a result of the thyroid issue. Since that conversation since i told her i felt like i was forcing her into having sex, i have basically almost fully pulled back from trying. We still hang out 2-5 days a week and sleep over basically 9/10 times we hang out but the sex has went from 95% of the time to about once a week. I know she has a cheating past as she has told me about it early on in our relationship, but she has never cheated on me (to my knowledge i guess). She basically said it was only when she thought she was being cheated on, and when she was younger she even had 2 boyfriends at once but has since matured (that was around 3/4 years ago). I'm not necessarily worried that she is but sure it's in the back of my head. I've told her that the second she cheats on me she might as well break up with me since it'll just make it easier than me finding out and having a huge fight that leads to a breakup. She's a really straight forward and blunt person so i take her word she'd do that. Basically jsut want to know if anyone has a girlfriend with a thyroid issue or someone who has a thyroid issue and if similar things have happened.
pteromom Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Is it possible that a thyroid issue is causing her libido to drop? Sure. But I don't think that is all that is going on here. You kept initiating, but her interest dropped, so you stopped initiating as much, and when you do, you are unsure and concerned about her being into it, so that has likely changed the whole dynamic of your sex life. Think back to when you had sex all the time. What was that like? How did you initiate? How did you romance her/woo her/get her interested? How was your confidence level, knowing you had a gf who was horny for you? Try planning a romantic surprise for her. Focus on really connecting and showing interest in her - not just SEXUALLY, but as a woman. Flirt, have fun. Then see what happens. See if her libido magically returns. I think it might!
Greznog Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 That's unfortunate, is it something you're willing to live with?
Author slackerkk Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 That's unfortunate, is it something you're willing to live with? Yeah i can live with it, I'm hoping soon she gets started on the medicine and it balances out but I'm probably going to bring it up to her tonight if I see her about what's going through my mind. Just in the back of my mind it's something beyond just the thyroid issue.
FitChick Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 If her thyroid is the problem, then fixing the thyroid fixes the problem. You won't know until she is optimized which can take months depending on how good her doctor is. She should be seeing an endocrinologist and not a GP.
GirlontheLam Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Yeah this happened to me too. I hope for her sake, she gets back to normal fast. It has taken me like 18 months...and I am still a work in progress in terms of getting back to normalcy. Energy levels, libido, etc. I'm only getting close to normal in about the last 3 months or so.
Author slackerkk Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 Yeah this happened to me too. I hope for her sake, she gets back to normal fast. It has taken me like 18 months...and I am still a work in progress in terms of getting back to normalcy. Energy levels, libido, etc. I'm only getting close to normal in about the last 3 months or so. I hope it doens't take that long, we are fairly young too at 23/24. I hope it gets fixed somewhat soon, we can make it through it i'm sure but still it's going to suck. If her thyroid is the problem, then fixing the thyroid fixes the problem. You won't know until she is optimized which can take months depending on how good her doctor is. She should be seeing an endocrinologist and not a GP. yeah she's only had 2 doctor visits now and both with her normal doctor, he's said he will send her to an endo but hasn't yet. Wanted to check her levels to see if they've improved or not. She hasn't even been started on medicine or anything yet even though she just wnats to get it over with and start on them. Before this thyroid issue, she was highly sexual (granted i still had to make the initial move, but she would atleast give subtle hints, damn the belief of guys making the first move) so i hope that when her levels get fixed she's back to that.
GirlontheLam Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 I hope it doens't take that long, we are fairly young too at 23/24. I hope it gets fixed somewhat soon, we can make it through it i'm sure but still it's going to suck. I have been diagnosed for just about two years (in my early 30s). At first, things were on the right track after a couple of weeks. Things stayed good for a few months. Then it was horrible. Then good. Then horrible. Now steadily improving. But it has been a roller coaster for me with energy levels etc. But maybe not so noticeable to other people. I went from really really really high energy to high energy for normal people. So if you hadn't known me for long you would think I was at my "max." I thought a lot of it was just getting older. It is nice to be getting back to the "old me." But it has been really gradual for me. I do vote for more foreplay!!!! That helped. It just took a little longer.
hopelessromantic29 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 This prob won't help but I'm 29 n I've had hypothyroidism all my life. N I've never lost any sexual interest in my partner. Stress n being tired does, but that's just life. I work a lot n I'm medicated so I'm not sure if this is why my sex life hasn't been affected by my condition.
GirlontheLam Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 This prob won't help but I'm 29 n I've had hypothyroidism all my life. N I've never lost any sexual interest in my partner. Stress n being tired does, but that's just life. I work a lot n I'm medicated so I'm not sure if this is why my sex life hasn't been affected by my condition. Things are good once you are properly medicated generally. But it can take a long time to get properly medicated and your levels right.
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