smint Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Yesterday I posted this: My ex left me for another girl,but never admitted me,treated me like dirt,after 7yrs of RS(my first everything),I am 26,he is 28,and she is also 28... He was sending me some signals to lower myself more and more,he was giving me some hope,I almost finished at therapist,when 2 months ago I decided strict NC,it has been 5,5 months ago since he left me(he left me on 12th March),and I heard that he already lives with her and her child who is 5,her husband died in accident in less then 6 months,and they are already living for 2 months together!!! We needed 1 whole year just to first kiss...anyway today I went to friend who had similar experience,and later she asked me for his name to see how he looks like on Facebook(I blocked him on my profile),and there was what to see...him with the T-shirt I BOUGHT TO HIM,and tat new bitch!!!I can't believe anymore how he is evil,is there ed of his evil behavior,he knew that I would see it,he has never put our together's picture on FB!!! Yesterday I had my thesis on faculty,and instead of being happy(ok I was happy),but I was missing him,I told everybody how I wish he is with me now...and later I cried again home because he wasn't with me...And e also deleted my youtube videos he recorded me when I was singing in school...I am devastating!!! And today I received from my ex SMS that he is glad that I have finished faculty,and he is sending me a lot of greetings!!!With what right is he doing all of that,my body is shaking!!!
Mariana345 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I'm with you! My ex of 5 years left me (blaming me and all) I haven't contacted him in 2 months or more and today I received a facebook message that said "what does it feel that he left you for another woman?" I'm sure it wasn't him but his crazy exgirlfriend but still hurt, cause It wasn't confirmed to me until today. I feel you, I know is hard, I hate him and all that is related to him. I won't look at his facebook cause it will be just keeping me from healing, you shouldn't do it either. Don't give him more power to hurt you! Is his lost, and you know that he will pay soon or later. Be brave, be great and made him regret leaving you!! You can do it!!!
Author smint Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Mariana345 thanks a lot!!!I think that their new girlfriends are afraid of us,because our exes had history with us,that girl is bitch for writing you that,we must me brave,I feel your pain too I deleted this message he sent me today,but I am still shaking,I hardly type this right now,I could kill them both with my hands!!!
Mariana345 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Yeah! I know what you mean! I'm soooo mad. I left my dreams for him and really believed him the "I love you"s and "I will always be with you"s and didn't care for myself. And he has the insolence to made the break up my fault! I'm really really mad! But you know what, I'm not going to show him that, or her. I'm going to show them that I'm happier withouth him, and that what he has lost will never come back to him. Actually I have improved myself in this 3 months way more than in those 5 years with him... Now I just think what a waste of time!! I think if you just ignore him and don't care about him that way you can hurt him... You can do it, he is a jerk and you deserve so much better!
Author smint Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Just go on with your progress,I am somehow glad that he has heard for me graduating faculty-which he is never going to have,and yes spending time with them was wasting our time,just ignorance,read this page,I found it helpful http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/297551-nc-indifference-crash-dumper-s-pride-ego I just come in order with my life,and it is enough one little signal of him,my head is Hiroshima again!Like right now...
Crila16 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Ok. It's not going to work with your ex and this new girl...so no worries there. She lost her husband only 6 mos ago and is with your boyfriend? Of coures she is. She has a 5 year old and can't do it alone and needs help and needs to be in a relationship. This is a HUGE case of the rebound. Let their relationship play out. It actually sounds kinda depressing. If I loved someone enough to marry them, it would be a very very very long time before I would be able to love someone that greatly again...if ever. Your ex txting you was actually kinda mean. It does mean he's thinking about you though, but don't get any hope up of him coming back. Believe me..you don't want him. He's hooked up with a girl who has some baggage that will most likely affect him in some way or another. Best thing to do is to continue to get better and get over him. You will fall in love and find someone better, but it will take time. Give yourself more time to be alone, so you don't end up rebounding. Once your heart is healed, you'll be free to give it to someone worthy. 2
Mariana345 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Thanks for that link, It is really interesting... And yes, better he thinks I am happier withouth him... The good thing is that I just begged a little at the begginig of the BU, just the day he left me... and NC since then... so I'm like "I don't care" and if I respond to this stupid message from who knows who It will ruin everything! I'm going to show them that I am enjoying my life!! You should too!! We know that we are great and deserve better. You know, he even left us for someone inferior to us because they feel they can't with us, we are too much for them!! They know it, we know it and their inferior girlfriends will know it with time... The good thing is that this killed the last love I had for him... just hate right now but soon enough it will be just indifference for him!!! Go girls!!!
flitzanu Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 so you went to a friend's house to stalk his facebook, and got pissed at what you saw, because he's moved on after being broken up almost 6 months. and then later he text you to congratulate you on finishing your thesis. how is that provoking you?
Author smint Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Ok. It's not going to work with your ex and this new girl...so no worries there. She lost her husband only 6 mos ago and is with your boyfriend? Of coures she is. She has a 5 year old and can't do it alone and needs help and needs to be in a relationship. This is a HUGE case of the rebound. Let their relationship play out. It actually sounds kinda depressing. If I loved someone enough to marry them, it would be a very very very long time before I would be able to love someone that greatly again...if ever. Your ex txting you was actually kinda mean. It does mean he's thinking about you though, but don't get any hope up of him coming back. Believe me..you don't want him. He's hooked up with a girl who has some baggage that will most likely affect him in some way or another. Best thing to do is to continue to get better and get over him. You will fall in love and find someone better, but it will take time. Give yourself more time to be alone, so you don't end up rebounding. Once your heart is healed, you'll be free to give it to someone worthy. Yeah,their story sounds depressing,and yes,messaging me was very mean,I am not thinking at all to come back to him EVER,even if he is the last man in the world!I am not responding anymore on his pity signals,so he can feel like good person. I am keeping reminding myself how he didn't care when I was hurting.Also in his mind,he is the greatest in the world,and I should chase him forever-wrong!I am breaking up the state he wants me to be,because he wants me to feel lost and lonely,because in that way I am unattractive to him,so he can feel great with his new gf,he wants to have no reason to be with me anymore.
Author smint Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Thanks for that link, It is really interesting... And yes, better he thinks I am happier withouth him... The good thing is that I just begged a little at the begginig of the BU, just the day he left me... and NC since then... so I'm like "I don't care" and if I respond to this stupid message from who knows who It will ruin everything! I'm going to show them that I am enjoying my life!! You should too!! We know that we are great and deserve better. You know, he even left us for someone inferior to us because they feel they can't with us, we are too much for them!! They know it, we know it and their inferior girlfriends will know it with time... The good thing is that this killed the last love I had for him... just hate right now but soon enough it will be just indifference for him!!! Go girls!!! Mariane,you were clever,I was begging and crying for a month and a half,I can't tell you how much I regret about that,and yes,that's the point,to show them that we can be happy without them!!! You are right about their new inferior flings,I am also intellectually much stronger then my ex...
Author smint Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 so you went to a friend's house to stalk his facebook, and got pissed at what you saw, because he's moved on after being broken up almost 6 months. and then later he text you to congratulate you on finishing your thesis. how is that provoking you? You are right about Facebook,but listen,in some moments I laugh to his moves,the thing is that we were together for 7 yrs,he NEVER put our picture on FB with me and him,it was always just him,ALWAYS,so now when I see them both I am thinking why,we have thousands of together's pictures,he NEVER put me,and I am not thinking that I am most beautiful person in the world,but comparing to this one,I am the miss of the world! Yesterday I saw that picture of"happy couple",and yes,today I received message about my thesis.I don't know who told him and why,it's not his business anymore.
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