john7474 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Hey guys, i recenntly endled a 2 year elationship four months ago. I was the dumpee. I work with my ex and we just stated talking again at work about a week ago. I just hated the awkwardness of ignoring her when i saw her. Antways, my birthday came and past a few days ago and I cant help it but it hurts that my ex never even actknowledged it. We spoke and laughed the day b4 at work and next day,, my birtday, nothing. I know she is not obligated to recognize it and im sure she knows it was my bday. I know I am allowing it to hurt me but what can i say, i have feelings.
Author john7474 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 Is it wrong or normal i am disapointed? What does it mean?
hopelessromantic29 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 It's absolutely normal to feel that way. I mean come on, you spent 2 yrs with her n for her not to mention ur bday. I think it just means you hoped you had meant more to her by having her wish you a happy bday.
heartbroken26 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 she probably remembered, but was indifferent or maybe she didn't want to showed that she cared. It's a sign she is trying to move on, so let her be. You guys broke up, so she's not obligated to say anything to you.
Author john7474 Posted September 1, 2012 Author Posted September 1, 2012 You guys broke up, so she's not obligated to say anything to you. I know she is not obligated to. Maybe it is just me but I would acknowledge someones b-day whether we were dating or not. Its just courtesy. Doesnt mean you are dating again.
Fitnerd Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I know she is not obligated to. Maybe it is just me but I would acknowledge someones b-day whether we were dating or not. Its just courtesy. Doesn't mean you are dating again. Not really, I got dumped and I didn't wish my ex a happy birthday. I don't feel indifferent, I didn't forget (definitely not) but I want to move on and NC means NO contact at all, birthdays be damned.
Joaquin Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 This bizarre need to get little meaningless bits of recognition from ex's. Sometimes I wonder does anyone have any backbone anymore. You didn't get a happy birthday, big flippn deal.
Author john7474 Posted September 1, 2012 Author Posted September 1, 2012 I see and talk to my ex several times a week.no contact is not the reason why. You are right, so she didnt widh me a happy b-day, booohoo. Lol.its not about that. I am just questioning my feelings.
geegirl Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 I know she is not obligated to. Maybe it is just me but I would acknowledge someones b-day whether we were dating or not. Its just courtesy. Doesnt mean you are dating again. It's normal to feel hurt. She didn't wish and you're sad she never acknowledged you. You feel she does not care. You spent two years together. You shouldn't question feeling bad. But I do question keeping in contact with her. Seems like you will always keep your feelings brewing with contact. She has her reasons for not wishing. She's indifferent. She doesn't want to lead you on. She forgot. Who knows. Wish if you want to but you must not place expectations on others to do the same.
Author john7474 Posted September 1, 2012 Author Posted September 1, 2012 She is a planner and lives her life through her calendar. She did not forget and we went out last year for my birthday. We work at the same place and no contact is difficult because we work in different deparments that service each other. The conversion is friendly lately and she even asked me a week ago about her wanting to get back together and that she misses me. After our last conversation, i realized i have grown stronger and completely changed my prospective about relationships, communication and what I need to be happy. Although this experience has been rough, i realize i am better for it and learned so much about myself through much self introspection. i view the world as a beautiful place and love as a beautiful thing and feel fortunaye that i have the ability to be open, show compassion, and uncobditional love. As for her, i saw she still as not changed unfortunately and is still very selfcentered. Its sad really but not my problem i know. Its strange how people carry around enotion baggage and place up walls to protect themseves like a security blanket yet dont realize something. People harbor all those bad feelings and trap them inside not knowing how to let them go or not wanting to but cause harm to themselves. People might protect themselves from getting hurt but the but they are not allowing any love in either. Its very sad and have done it myself until i finally learned how to use the power of forgiveness. That would always be my advice to someone who harbors bad feelings because of a bad experience. You must forgive them, for yourself becsuse you dont want to carry that baggage with you.
geegirl Posted September 1, 2012 Posted September 1, 2012 It's great then that you've found a new perspective on life and have found the insight that will help you move forward. A birthday wish should not take away from that nor cause you to question your feelings and her reasoning then. Keep moving forward and seeking better for yourself. In the grand scheme of what you see ahead of you, a wish will soon be a drop in the ocean.
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