Cross dress.

[Bob Shilling]

Like most boys going through puberty I would steel my sisters clothes, mostly underwear, pantyhose that had been ripped and thrown away, and experiment with sexual arousal while wearing them.

 

Later in my adult life those feeling of being sexually aroused while wearing women's underwear stayed with me. I'm not a "do my hair, nails and makeup kind of cross-dresser, I just on occasions feel the need to wear them.

 

I've always fantasied about having sex while dressed up, with previous girlfriends it never really worked out, it wouldn't be a turn on for them, and on one memorable occasion one girlfriend could not stop laughing at the sight of me in her best "sexy dress" and a few days later at her friends place she got rather drunk and spurted the whole story out in front of me to her friend.

Who I'm glad to say was more supportive of me that she was of her.

 

What I've been trying to find is if there are women who have this as a fantasy / fetish? In my research I've found that some women like it as a dominatrix humiliation thing, but that's not what I'm into. I've also heard that some do get off on the idea that their guy wears their panties when they go out, similar thing to that. I even read one woman's blogs where she likes to dress her boyfriend in the French Maids out fit that he had got for her.

 

Also, I've been with a woman now for over fifteen years, and although I've only indulged myself a few times while I've been home alone, the other week she had to work late, and while I was putting laundry away my hand fell on some old pantyhose and I could resist no longer, I also dug out her "sexy dress" and indulged my self for an hour.

 

This has left me wondering if I should approach her with my desire and fantasy, or should I just stay quite. I know she has suspected things before, but never spoken directly of my wearing her underwear.

 

So I guess my question is two fold, should I risk everything again, and is it a fantasy / fetish for some women to see a man in women's clothes other than the domination thing?

[CarrieT]

I lived with a man for almost three years who is exactly like you, but he did occasionally like to put make-up on in private. In fact, he had a better lingerie collection than I did but his "day job" was as a race car driver and mechanic so no one would ever know what he liked in private.

 

It is difficult to find women who are accepting of that aspect of a man and not all of them need in the context of being a Domme, but they do exist. After 15 years with the same woman, only you can decide if your relationship is strong enough to be honest with her about your fetish.

 

If your relationship doesn't survive, you will be going about trying to find a life partner based on one aspect of your sexuality other than everything else in life. Now I'm someone who has done that (D/s) and was successful, but it was a long, hard battle.

 

But don't feel belittled by your fetish and your choice. A girlfriend of mine is in a strong relationship with a cross-dresser and there is no humiliation involved so it is possible. Communication is key...