steelgator Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 So i had a best friend of over a year and i always helped her with her guy problems and she helped me with girls problems. Our mutual friends told me to go after her because she thought i was cute and she even once tried hookin up with me after she got drunk and i had to drive her home. Her roommates even asked me if i was in love with her and i said i don't know. I took her out on a date function for my fraternity and I opened up my feelings to her but she said she's never felt the same and she's not ready for a relationship but she just wants to be friends. One of her best friends said she does care about me but i needed to give her time because she had been hurt by her two previous boyfriends. After winter break she asks me to drive her home from a place where all our friends were hangin out then when i drop her off says "call me one night when ur drunk and ill get you food." then she made me pinky promise with a kiss on the fist. That did it to me and i freaked out and spilled my feelings again but then she said she didn't think we should talk anymore til i am over her and she just meant it as friends. Well two months after that i was now with my now ex girlfriend and she texts me out of the blue "lol you are dating XXX?" i said yea is that a problem? she said no im happy for you that means ur over me. I am out on a formal date function at the time and she asks me how it is and i told her we were fighting. She goes oh that sucks should've taken me . I just said lol yea i guess. After i told her that my ex was making me unhappy at the time she replied "I wish we were together". I asked do you really mean that? And she quickly said I wish you were with your date. I broke up with the ex a couple weeks after that. so its been a few months since ive been single and i chatted her maybe twice during that time and she was responsive...then after a month of not talking I ask if we can be friends again. She didnt respond but posted on her friends wall about how she had a minor meltdown that day. I met her brother at a party so I texted her saying how awesome her brother is. She replies the next day saying she knows but not to talk trash about her to her family (I told her brother that she got too cool for me and doesn't talk to me anymore). I said I'm sorry that I just miss us being close friends and i dont hate her. She said she understands but that we both know why its weird for us to be friends and doesn't think it can ever be the same. I told her im over whats happened between us. Like isnt being friends what she wanted?
TigerCub Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 This girl is so toying with you. She's not interested in dating you, but she gets off on the ego boost you give her when you play into her little games. She may not realize what she's doing, or she really may be calculating - either way its cruel. Do yourself a favor and don't play into her crap. Ignore her. Don't initiate anything with her, if she makes contact with you answer to the point (if you choose to answer at all), but don't feed her ego, and don't pine away after her and don't try to be her friend because she's not yours. If you continue the way you are, one day you'll look back on this and regret how you let someone toy with you and treat you so badly.
Author steelgator Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 she doesn't initiate anything...we were really close friends and i just hate how everything is. A few days before i made it official with my now ex she was starin at me at the party i was at but didnt come speak to me. I guess i feel like this because I miss my ex alot even though we were unhealthy and im looking for comfort and possibly to rekindle some kind of spark. But this girl was my best friend and now we don't talk at all
TigerCub Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 she doesn't initiate anything...we were really close friends and i just hate how everything is. A few days before i made it official with my now ex she was starin at me at the party i was at but didnt come speak to me. I guess i feel like this because I miss my ex alot even though we were unhealthy and im looking for comfort and possibly to rekindle some kind of spark. But this girl was my best friend and now we don't talk at all Maybe you're reading too much into random things. So what if she was staring at you, maybe she was looking at something behind you? You can't analyze and read into every little thing. You say you were best friends, but then you made your feelings clear and she's backing off the whole thing. I do still believe that she does toy with you a bit, or maybe sometimes she says things jokingly (as she might have done when you guys were just friends and your feelings weren't clear) but you read too much into them. Sorry you are feeling lonely, but getting caught up in what looks to be nothing isn't going to help you. Get out there and meet new girls.
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