Mint Sauce Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 at this moment I want nothing more than to cut my cheating GF and the OM (my former friend) from my life, but they make it impossible: she's taking up a job at my workplace, they got an apartment in my home town, they are enjoying the hobby I both got them into on the field I usually play. They try to win our mutual friends to their side (fortunately rather unsuccessfully) It's like a territorial fight, instead of them having the decency to build there future elsewhere. How do I obtain true NC? I can't just leave everything behind. My family is here, my job is here. Never expected me to actually long for NC like this, so I guess that's good. sigh
fray5 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 at this moment I want nothing more than to cut my cheating GF and the OM (my former friend) from my life, but they make it impossible: she's taking up a job at my workplace, they got an apartment in my home town, they are enjoying the hobby I both got them into on the field I usually play. They try to win our mutual friends to their side (fortunately rather unsuccessfully) It's like a territorial fight, instead of them having the decency to build there future elsewhere. How do I obtain true NC? I can't just leave everything behind. My family is here, my job is here. Never expected me to actually long for NC like this, so I guess that's good. sigh Do you see her often while at work? Can you take up your hobby elsewhere? This sounds like a real difficult situation, and you don't have to leave everything behind. They sound a little immature and as if they're trying to challenge you for the territory. It's definitely good you're really wanting the NC; that says you're ready to really move on with your life. I can tell you what you probably already know and that's to just avoid them as much as you can. Maybe even find a new hobby or something else you haven't tried before.
Crila16 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 This was my life for 3 years in college, when my boyfriend had dumped me for his ex who had originally left him for his best friend. It was more of a love square than triangle. Anyway, they were always around, because my boyfriend's ex was living in the same dorm as me. When they got back together, it always felt like it was being thrown in my face while my heart was breaking. I think I cried non-stop for days on end. I couldn't get over it, because the ex lived 1 floor below me, directly under me. Talk about torture. The best thing to do is to not even look or acknowledge them. That's what I learned. Yes it hurts...but as you walk by them, pretend there's an invisible wall blocking you from them. I know it doesn't feel like it will ever get better...but I promise. It will get a lot easier, especially when you end up meeting someone else. Like my mom always says..."it's temporary, and this too shall pass."
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