JHparkes Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 (edited) Been seeing a lovely guy for one month. Friends for two months prior Before I went out with him I worked with him briefly and was attracted to him on and off. some days I really had a crush on him, other days I found him not very attractive at all. By most people’s opinions he is not a nice looking guy at all. Some of my friends are horrified that I could be attracted to him. Some days I am very attracted to him, other days I find I don’t want to look at him. The strange thing is, he turns me on sexually more than anyone I have ever been out with (this is the confusing bit) and I am so wet even just thinking about having sex with him Sometimes I am very jealous at the thoughts of him being attracted to others or vice versa. And I get very excited at the thoughts of seeing him and get butterflies when I think of him, although this has calmed down a lot lately] All of this is very confusing to me. I love his company, I find him very calming and can’t imagine not being with him But sometimes I am put off him. It’s stupid things like, he is a smoker I am not and he won’t brush his teeth for a whole day, not even in the mornings sometimes and he’ll try and kiss me and his breath will smell. Sometimes his basic hygiene is a bit lacking and he’ll not shower all day and night and then go to bed with me and climb on top and I feel a bit repulsed as I can smell he is not completely clean. But at the same time I love his eyes, I find them very sexy. I don’t find his body all that attractive as he is very skinny, but I still really enjoy sex with him. What is happening here? Anyone got any insight into this as it is confusing me immensely just exactly what I am feeling here. Edited August 30, 2012 by JHparkes
Author JHparkes Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 It's simple. You are a prude. LOL in what way am i a prude?
madjac74 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 LOL in what way am i a prude? You are all over him for his faults and imperfections and what your friends think of him...yet you are so unsure of the simple fact that he makes you happy and makes your vagina tingle in the right ways.
Author JHparkes Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 You are all over him for his faults and imperfections and what your friends think of him...yet you are so unsure of the simple fact that he makes you happy and makes your vagina tingle in the right ways. Ah so you are saying then that it is me magnifying his faults that is making me go off him and I should just relax in the fact that he turns me on??
madjac74 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I'm not telling you anything. I'm just replying. But I will tell you that you are treating him like a dog, you love him when he is good but beat him when he pisses on your favorite high heels
Author JHparkes Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 I'm not telling you anything. I'm just replying. But I will tell you that you are treating him like a dog, you love him when he is good but beat him when he pisses on your favorite high heels Sorry but since when does going off someone slightly every now and again and wondering about its significance equate to treating someone like a dog??
veggirl Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Some days you can barely stand to look at him?! After just a month in...? No I do not think you are attracted to him. I can't imagine saying that about someone I am attracted to. That's not to say I am blind to their flaws or anything but this is very extreme. I think it's unfortunate that your friends are so tactless and rude that they tell you they are "horrified" by you being possibly attracted to this guy. How mean. Do you think you are being influenced by their opinions?
Emilia Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 He sounds quite dirty with all fairness. Kinda disgusting
Author JHparkes Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Some days you can barely stand to look at him?! After just a month in...? No I do not think you are attracted to him. I can't imagine saying that about someone I am attracted to. That's not to say I am blind to their flaws or anything but this is very extreme. I think it's unfortunate that your friends are so tactless and rude that they tell you they are "horrified" by you being possibly attracted to this guy. How mean. Do you think you are being influenced by their opinions? Possibly. I can't say that I am not attracted to him otherwise why do I love his eyes, and find him sexy some days?
veggirl Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Maybe the days he showers are the days you are attracted Gross what adult doesn't keep up on basic hygiene? How did I miss that in the OP? Have you been single for a long time, maybe you are just attracted to the attention he gives you.
Author JHparkes Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Maybe the days he showers are the days you are attracted Gross what adult doesn't keep up on basic hygiene? How did I miss that in the OP? Have you been single for a long time, maybe you are just attracted to the attention he gives you. No, before him I was dating a very stereotypically good looking guy, but to put it bluntly, he didn't make my knickers wet like this guy does. And yes, the basic hygeine thing is when the attraction started to wane.
Imajerk17 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I'm confused, because you keep posting the same story about this guy: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/334818-did-i-do-right-thing http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/335298-im-starting-feel-strongly Something doesn't add up. Are you dating him a month now, or three months now? (i.e., in early July it was one month)
KatZee Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I feel where you're coming from because hygiene puts me off immensely. If a guy can't show me general basic hygiene, it's kind of like...well what else don't you keep clean? One of my exes from college was kind of like this, with the brushing teeth thing, and bad breath, and I could feel I was falling for him, but that would put me off... One day we were in his dorm room and he had just come back from brushing his teeth, and we got stuck in a staring contest and he kissed me. And that was it. I tried to fight it, because the hygiene thing put me off, but I had fallen for him big time. I basically would say things like, "ooo your breath is so minty i love it" or offer him a piece of gum or a mint, and I think he got the hint really quickly and the bad breath thing never came back again. You could pull the same moves in regards to him showering more often, be like "ohhh you smell so good I love when you smell like (insert body wash name)" and if he's into you he'll always want to impress you with that. The guy from college became the biggest love of my (current) lifetime. I felt for him hard. I loved him for a real long time, even after we broke up! He wasn't the typical hot guy either, fairly normal, tall and lanky... but boy he got me going in the sex department, and just like you i'd be all ready to go just with the thought of him. We're still friends to this day... and I totally never regret giving him a shot.
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