GuGa Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 At first I thought all of her flirting signs were there: started off with small talks, smiles each time we see each other, invites to join her and coworkers for lunch, laughing at my silly jokes, let's do happy hours mentions, instant messagings, invite to join their dept's for happy hour, checking in to make sure I come, giving me her number just in case, once at happy hour she made her exchanged her seat with others to get closer to me albeit across small table, cheers with our glasses every few minutes - just two of us ignoring others, at wrap up full body contact embrace hug with her two arms around my back while mine is one arm around her shoulders, she hug goodbye everyone though but her coworkers thought it was unusual for her - she was quiet, shy one in their dept. Following week asking if interested in local end of summer evening festival. Mentioning she is off from work that week but might join coworkers if anybody goes. I did go to see if I run into her or dept coworkers, didn't see anyone. Next monday she asked me if i did go, I said yes but didn't see anyone. She said she did go too and run into few people from other dept not hers. Didn't hang with them but still enjoyed couple of drinks that evening. Didn't mention with who. So I thought my bad luck we just misssed each other. She is still Inviting to join lunches again with her dept and mentioning doing another happy hour soon. It is her who usually send me instant messages if not daily, at least every other day. Small talk, some flirting, nighty nights, etc. She even has a nick for me which is shortened version of my name that nobody else uses. So, long story short, I thought she is finally attracted to me and flirting in return with me after my 6+ months long subtle flirts, compliments, small talks on my way to get coffee, jokes, facetime anytime there is an occasion, etc. I thought there were enough signs for me to take it to the next level, until her close friend asked me what do I think of a new guy who started just couple of months ago? That's when it hit me: I might just being used as a decoy! She being on a shy side and then all of sudden organizing lunches and happy hours for her dept and inviting others from other depts. to join too including me and new guy. Turns out nobody else was inviting new guy but her. Now looking back I don't know what to think of her flirting signs above. I have observed body language of a new guy and he definately into her. Always keeps close to her, sits next to her, stares into her and this doesn't seem to bother her at all. In fact, when we are together without new guy, she seems to pay attention to me, but when there is a new guy around he seems to crowd her and I just keep convos with other people ignoring them. So at this point I halted everything. Don't know what's real. If she is into new guy, I don't want to walk into laughing stock trap. Now tell me if I'm reading her wrong.
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