Insecurities and Jealousy :(

[Boredguy]

Hi! So Okay, I have this girlfriend, and we are Long Distance.

She has never given me a reason not to trust her. I love her, and she loves me.

She always compliments me and tells me how attractive I am and stuff, she tells me everyday she loves me, and we are very close.

I can hear the love in her voice and see it in her eyes when we skype.

Problem is, I have a lot of insecurities.

And she always makes me feel better about them for a night, and then they come back the next day.

She hangs out with guys, and always tells me about them.

She hung around with her ex a little bit.

And she has told me before in the past she has checked out some other guys, but she said "I look at other guys and then I tihnk to myself 'ew, those people aren't you"

And I know she is telling me the truth, but I get so jealous when she "fangirls" over an actor, or hangs out with a guy or doesn't text me.

I worry about losing her. She's the most important thing that has ever happened to me, and I am very important to her.

 

I try to keep it all to myself but it just gets hard.

I don't exactly know what my insecurity is, I guess I hate the way I look, and think I annoy everyone.

She is like the most perfect girl for me, and I feel like I can never be for her what she is to me.

 

If she ever starts crushing on someone else I have the feeling I would be heartbroken.

She tells me she hates most of the guys she hangs out with, and they annoy her, but she still always hangs out with them and tells me about them.

And sometimes she talks about one of her exes in a way that makes me think she misses him.

 

I never wanna be controlling, the most "controlling" I have been is when I asked her to stop talking about her exes, and sit at a different table while eating lunch, cause she sat with her ex, this other guy she used to like, and this really creepy guy.

She was completely fine with me asking those things of her, she said "I always wanna make you happy" and she tells me sometimes she feels bad that she makes me worry.

I know she loves me and is faithful, but I can't just seem to stop being jealous and worrying.

What should I do?

[justwhoiam]

She sounds like a very lively girl. Don't kill her drive.

 

It's good you let her know the things that bothered you and she was happy to comply. Don't overdo it. Keep it in check. She just wants you. Don't ruin it because of your silly insecurities. Girls have their own share of insecurities.

 

Be lively too. That's important. Don't focus on her hanging out with others. Instead, make the time you share with her memorable. Do your best. Don't waste your time on those silly things, use it to arrange stuff to have a big time together when you get to meet her and so on.