without Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 A good relationship that they both were loyal and loved eachother? Im starting to think it doesnt exist.
CarrieT Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 A good relationship that they both were loyal and loved each other? I'm starting to think it doesn't exist. I am in one now. And - for what it is worth - I have never cheated on any of the relationships I have been in although I have been cheated on several times...
KungFuJoe Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 It exists. Sometimes you gotta wallow through miles of mud to get it...but it most certainly exists. 1
Silly_Girl Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Its hard to believe. I kinda think you HAVE to believe. Else what...? I am in the best relationship I've ever had, and believe me, I've been at rock bottom with potential suitors. Ugh. I used to think that I'd rather spend forever hoping for something that didn't come, much as it might hurt, than close off my mind and heart and grow bitter.
Regrets58 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Yes I have,we loved each other and were loyal. Sadly she is no longer with us,and now I find myself here 3 years later.
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 More than one. The question is, why don't you require that for yourself, if it's important to you?
Author without Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 More than one. The question is, why don't you require that for yourself, if it's important to you? What do you mean?
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 What do you mean? I mean that if you want to have a relationship like what you describe, it is up to YOU to create that for yourself in your own life. They don't just "happen." If you spend your time on relationships that are not at all oriented in that direction, with people who are not interested in having that, YOU are wasting your own time and YOU are standing in the way of having such a relationship. It's like sitting down with a fork and an entire chocolate cake, a ham, a mountain of chips and dip, and a side of bacon, digging in, and then pondering whether anyone ever can possibly be slim. Just from what I have been learning about you from your threads, it seems like at this stage of your life you are a lot more interested in drama and angst than in having a loyal and stable relationship. I can certainly understand that - I had those times myself. But it's good to be honest with yourself and clear about what you are putting your energy into. 1
Author without Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 I mean that if you want to have a relationship like what you describe, it is up to YOU to create that for yourself in your own life. They don't just "happen." If you spend your time on relationships that are not at all oriented in that direction, with people who are not interested in having that, YOU are wasting your own time and YOU are standing in the way of having such a relationship. It's like sitting down with a fork and an entire chocolate cake, a ham, a mountain of chips and dip, and a side of bacon, digging in, and then pondering whether anyone ever can possibly be slim. Just from what I have been learning about you from your threads, it seems like at this stage of your life you are a lot more interested in drama and angst than in having a loyal and stable relationship. I can certainly understand that - I had those times myself. But it's good to be honest with yourself and clear about what you are putting your energy into. You are right. But you dont know sth. Where I live there arent many ppl around, and those that are here are depressed. I dont have the means (like money) to move.
Author without Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 right now my ex wants to get back but i dont love him but im thinking i may get old and never have someone... is that wrong?.. im 22 but i dont see anyone around me..
eleanorhurting Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 right now my ex wants to get back but i dont love him but im thinking i may get old and never have someone... is that wrong?.. im 22 but i dont see anyone around me.. at 22, there will be plenty of chances to have a relationship! Most of the people who are saying that they are one in here are in their 30s+!
Author without Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 at 22, there will be plenty of chances to have a relationship! Most of the people who are saying that they are one in here are in their 30s+! Yes but age goes fast... Im worried i may never enjoy my youth..
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Yes but age goes fast... Im worried i may never enjoy my youth.. Well, all of this hand wringing is not part of enjoying your youth. Get out there and enjoy it. Worrying about all this crap is a waste. What do you like to do? How do you spend your days? What are some of your short term and longer term goals (besides having a relationship)? What is your social life like? Could you improve that? Not on the boyfriend front - I'm talking about friends and sharing activities with like - minded people?
Author without Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 Well, all of this hand wringing is not part of enjoying your youth. Get out there and enjoy it. Worrying about all this crap is a waste. What do you like to do? How do you spend your days? What are some of your short term and longer term goals (besides having a relationship)? What is your social life like? Could you improve that? Not on the boyfriend front - I'm talking about friends and sharing activities with like - minded people? I have friends, but TBH there isnt much to do here. Its a third world country with no bars no discos no nothing. I do go out sometimes and mostly im in uni and its my last year.
Hawaii50 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 A good relationship that they both were loyal and loved eachother? Im starting to think it doesnt exist. I did, and it was amazing. But I was too young. She, too old. And I had a too much in front of me to stop and settle down at the moment. If I met her today I would snatch her up and never let a day go by without showing her how much she means to me. We were together almost 5 years. Just bad timing.
Author without Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 Well, all of this hand wringing is not part of enjoying your youth. Get out there and enjoy it. Worrying about all this crap is a waste. What do you like to do? How do you spend your days? What are some of your short term and longer term goals (besides having a relationship)? What is your social life like? Could you improve that? Not on the boyfriend front - I'm talking about friends and sharing activities with like - minded people? And since you know, He even blocked me on FB.. I still dont know how horrible was what i did that i deserve all these blocking... Is finding a site that important? Its like finding ones diary i guess..
runner Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Yes but age goes fast... Im worried i may never enjoy my youth.. dating in your (the general 'you') early twenties is over-rated; don't be so hung-up over it. surround yourself with good people that you trust and it'll blow over in time. 1
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