Scattered Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 My friend and became friends with benefits about three years ago, with him helping me with things and him getting laid. We both had just gotten out of relationships; mine was abusive. He beat me and forced me to abort our baby. Neither one of us were interested in getting into another relationship so this was our compromise. It's been really fun too, over probably the last year and a half we've made a stronger bond. It's not about sex anymore, we go out to dinner and movies, I'll make him dinner after he gets off work, and provide each other with emotional support an example is I went with him to his moms funeral last year because he couldn't do it alone. I've started to get more affectionate towards him, I play with his hair, I give him massages. I'm falling for him, he's so smart, and funny, and attractive when I see him my heart skips a beat. The other day he came over to watch a movie, I started kissing his forearm. He pulled away, I asked him if he had a problem with it and he said no he just didn't know what I was doing then he moved his arm back. As the movie progressed I started kissing his neck. He loved that, then we had sex. I'm in love with him, but when this first started going on we made a deal we'd walk away if we started to have feelings for the other person. I don't want to, I don't think I can. What should I do? Is there a chance he'll love me back?
KungFuJoe Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 It sounds like you guys are already "playing" at a relationship. I would just tell him how you feel. What's the alternative? You keep on harboring feelings for him and just having sex?
Author Scattered Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 (edited) We had spent some time with his mom before she died, she was sick for years and started going downhill. When I met her he told her I was his girlfriend/. I know he did it because she was dying and he didn't want to upset or confuse her. When he said that though I felt so proud he was "mine". She asked if he'd finally settle down with a nice. He said "maybe with this one, mama." she got tears in her eyes and said she hoped so. I asked him later if he loved me and he said "sort of, baby." and that was the end of it. Maybe I should step back and see if he follows. Edited August 30, 2012 by Scattered
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