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Trying to learn how to deal with ex being preggy


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So looking on her, it seems that this is the right place to put this at. Now for my situation.

 

I was with a girl for about a month and a couple weeks, everything seemed to be great until a few bumps in the road and took both of us to the edge. We ended up breaking up and tried to stay friends, since she is pregnant.

 

I still haven't figured out how to cope with this. Most people on here say to go on with your life delete them and keep going. Well, in this case, its F'in hard as crap to go and do that with this one. She is having my kid, now I know a few of you will ask if i'm positive its my child...... Well, maybe, maybe not, shiestyness played into role on this part. She couldn't keep up with the constant lying over and over again. Eventually, It broke. I can't stand liars and build something with them when all they do is constantly make up BS.

 

Anyways, She never wants me to talk to her about anything, unless its about the baby... period. Makes me wonder if she maybe is hiding something. Moving forward in life and most of the time I think about maybe its not my child at all?!? Only time will tell. She has another appointment in September and ill be heading to every appointment there is for the baby. Only sad part is, is that she always brings her mom with her and they are decorating and deciding what they want to do with the babies room (IE: if it's a girl or boy) I apparently have no decisions on any of that.

 

A part of me wants to say I hope she becomes mature and acts her damn age, which is still young (20 yrs). other than that. All I can do is be patient until this baby comes out and find out if its mine or not.

 

any suggestions on what else to do? sorry my grammar and sentence structure is terrible, but this is a forum and its readable =P

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I apparently have no decisions on any of that.

 

I hate to break it to you but in 2012 men have only one role in the lives of their children, to pay the bills. Also, get a DNA test.

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thought its been like that for years now lol

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It has been, but you weren't a parent in 1995.

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Just because I wasn't a parent in 1995, doesn't mean I do not know anything about child support, law, and what arrears mean.

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I don't really understand your post. You say she couldn't stand the constant lying. Yet you don't even know for sure if the child is even yours?

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"Only sad part is, is that she always brings her mom with her and they are decorating and deciding what they want to do with the babies room"

 

the grandma would be like this anyway if you were married or in any relationship; they have a baby who grows up and has a baby, highly sentimental, it's a love-fest, but here we have a loving grandma perfectly disposed towards much baby-sitting, ten/fourteen years of childhood, which not all do, for some mothers and daughters a baby's arrival is the very summit of delight with hormones and nostalgia playing major parts

 

your job is to fend of the child's bullies later on and to teach about dating, plus, guys can be most protective, threatening even, on a way a woman can't be

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