dassme Posted July 19, 2004 Posted July 19, 2004 I've been in many relationships in my life ( NOT TO SOUND CONCEITED ). Some have been good, others better but the latest one I was in was really great! She was an older woman, professional but had some baggage with her. It didn't bother me one bit cause I was really into her and it's not her fault things didn't work out for her in the past. Anyway, we recently broke up not once but twice over the problem of our age difference. She's 9 years older than me and felt that mentally she was getting older and our goals were different ( She's 39 and I'm 30 ). At first I tried to accept the first break up but I couldn't. I missed her way too much and so did she. Eventually we got back together a week later. The second time she broke up with me was a bit of a shock! She accused me of doing things behind her back with other girls which of course was totally false!! Now why would I try so hard to get us back together only to screw up and cheat on her??? NOT!! That's not me at all totally! Anyway, she stopped all contact with me via phone, email, and text messaging. I was really hurt! A week passed with out any contact till I decided to try a contact her. I sent her an email and she responded to it. I called her later that day and we spoke for a bit. The reasoning this time for her breaking up with me was that she's afraid of me leaving her if someone younger were to pass me by! I was so dumbfounded!!! Why would she think like that! I tried to reassure her but couldn't. She felt that it's best that we break up now before we get way too deep and it would hurt more in the end. To make the hurt so called less damaging, she told that there's no one else and that she misses me a lot! She wants to be friends but it's just too hard. We went out for dinner the other night but it was just too painful. We both saw it! Anyway my question is, how do I let her go? Sometimes I feel just burning the bridge and be strong but other times I miss her so much and want to contact her!
cinnamonstix49 Posted July 19, 2004 Posted July 19, 2004 I'm sorry to hear about your loss... Eventhough it wasn't a death, losing a relationship can be just as traumatic. Everyone 'lets go' in their own way, but my suggestion is that you try to distance yourself from her, try going out with friends and taking up a new hobby to keep your mind off her... whatever you do... DO NOT CONTACT HER, it will only make letting go harder. Your heart will heal when its ready, you will probably always have feelings for her, but in time you'll be able to move on.
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