AwptiK Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Long story short, my girlfriend (who's 18, i'm 21) of a few months, broke up with me last Thursday, saying she needs to focus on school and herself right now. Within a few days, she meets this guy who's in classes with her and they start talking. Just like that...after 2 days she's thrown away everything we had for this guy. From what I know, just within 3 days of talking, she was pretty crazy about him (She also described him as being "Just like S, but my age". I find this stupid myself, but these are mostly her words to our mutual friend. The part that hurt the most was her saying she'd rather be with this guy than me. I was the first guy she's ever had that treated her right. I sent her flowers, I don't even recall the amount of times, we went out on nice dates occasionally, went to concerts, we always had fun regardless of what it was, I always made 110% effort to see and be with her. Her parents, her friends, everyone before we started dating was like, "You NEED to date this guy" and I've found out that she is constantly badgered now by, "When are you and S getting back together?" The things she told me about how great I was, how I was everything she needed and wanted...She even said I was the one guy she could fully be herself around, she always felt like she put up a front for others, but not me.. Everyone saw how happy she was, I don't see how that changed so dramatically. I reallllllllllllllllllllllly don't see how three days of mostly texting with a guy > me. The worst argument (and all of this goes down between her and our mutual friend, her and I have been NC) she makes is she talks about how she thinks we faded apart, but in reality, the last 3 days of our relationship, things were really off...because she was distant and thinking about things. Every moment prior was perfect. She's so set in those last few days when she refers to not wanting me back. On a side note, that new guy...he dropped her like a rock for another girl he was already talking to. So now i'm watching her struggle over that, seemingly moreso than she struggled with our breakup. Our mutual friend fought a bit for her to come back to me, but that's not going to happen anytime soon... I do realize we've struggled enough through and since the breakup, that it would be quite hard to be the way we were again. I don't even want to jump back in to things if they did, I just want a reset button. I do still hope she'll come back.....
flitzanu Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Long story short, my girlfriend (who's 18, i'm 21) of a few months, broke up with me last Thursday, saying she needs to focus on school and herself right now. Within a few days, she meets this guy who's in classes with her and they start talking. Just like that...after 2 days she's thrown away everything we had for this guy. let me just stop you right there. she was wanting to date him before she broke up with you. sorry to be the one to say it, but that was her intention. "i need time" = "i want to see new people". you're young and have all the time in the world to find a new girl, because this one has already jumped ship, brother. don't worry, it's not you, it's her.
Author AwptiK Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Yeah... I suppose I was putting off realizing that truth. But I do realize it's not me, that's actually why I don't understand her intentions. I've been a solid boyfriend to her the entire time, so it's hard to see anyone willing to drop that for a shot at someone else. From what I know, he told her he was talking to another girl already (who he chose over her), which makes dropping me even more of a lame decision. The idea of "not being enough" sucks, though I did get my share of warnings when I first started talking to her. Several people, including an ex who's become a good friend, all said she wasn't worth it, indecisive, immature, doesn't know what she wants..especially when it's right in her face. At this point i'm perfectly okay though, I handle breakups reasonably well..in time I boil what I miss down into traits, which makes it easy to be like "Well she was really affectionate - I can find that in the other millions of girls out there" and so on. I do kind of still want the satisfaction of seeing her try to come back, just based on everything in her past and how she is, I know she'll realize at some point what she gave up. Might be a long ways and a few more guys away, so by then i'll be long gone and not care
flitzanu Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 well, being a solid boyfriend doesn't always matter to a girl that's feeling fickle. there's likely nothing you could have done to keep it from happening. so many girls at that age just chase temporary happiness, and you don't want to get caught in the middle of that.
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