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I seem to have developed a new way of looking at my ex (no, not through a telescope lol).

 

Earlier today I realised I am not attracted to her any more. Especially not the attraction I felt BEFORE she cheated on me. I have been too consumed with anger/hate/love/sorry/regret all of those to realise it until now.

 

She is still a beautiful woman, I still remember how sweet she can be and everything that made me love her.

 

But 2 months after we BU, I'm now getting to then point where I can start to feel no physical attraction. If anything, she seems a bit skanky to me. Now since she's cheated, I have always had this thought but it's only today I realised it was true and not just a result of being angry.

 

Is this a good sign? Is this what people normally feel? Or is it just the mood I am in today?

 

I still love and miss her but I don't think I am IN LOVE with her any more. I really do want to break NC, but it has only been a week (which is a bit crap but by God it's been the longest week ever). I'm not going to but one day, I'd like to chat with her and tie up any loose ends.

 

Do most people feel their physical attraction for their ex slip away not long after breakup?

 

I will probably change my mind tomorrow >_<

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This happened to me with my ex.

 

I saw a recent picture of him with his new fling, and honestly he reminds me of Mr. Bean. He just DOESN'T look good. I know he's a good looking kid, but since the split, he doesn't seem to have done much with himself. He looks like he gained some weight, his smile in the picture looks super forced, eyes squinty, double chin thing going on... he just doesn't look relaxed and like he did with me. I also see a bit of a gut thing going on.

 

I looked at that picture like... wow...

 

Because I've taken recent pictures of myself (I used to hate pictures being taken of me b/c I'd always come out bad) and I saw my most recent photo... I've lost weight, skin and hair is great, smile is genuine, my eyes look HAPPY... it's the happiest and best I've looked in I can't tell you how long... I'm sure that picture screams "EAT YOUR HEART OUT."

 

 

Funny how these things happen.

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honestly he reminds me of Mr. Bean.

 

:laugh:

 

I've only seen one recent photo of my ex. She didn't look much different, maybe skinnier (or gaunt)? But I didn't like it when she went too skinny to be honest.

 

It's more when I think about being intimate. It's just not doing anything for me any more. I was kinda hoping after all those years I'd have quite an investment in the wank bank. But meh, not so much.

 

I remember thinking how beautiful she was (she modelled for an artist occasionally). She was classically beautiful. I still think she still is. But the radiant glow I once saw around her has gone. My mind just sees: Skank.

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Ive split up with my ex for about 2 months now, but its only been 1 month really because we was ment to be getting back together. I wish i felt like you do, you really seem to be unattaching from her which is great. My ex lost 8lbs since we broke up shes a size 8 now with size double Ds, when i was with her she was a bit chunky just a bit, now im scared to see her because of that but im probably going to see her saturday at a party. I havent seen a picture of her for about a month and i dont really want to either because it will really low blow me. People have also been telling me how nicer she looks now, just ironic how better she looks now after we split up:(. Nevertheless ive been working out like mad the past 6 weeks and ive gained a few lbs of muscle and i look great myself so i guess she might feel the same when she see's me.

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Nevertheless ive been working out like mad the past 6 weeks and ive gained a few lbs of muscle and i look great myself so i guess she might feel the same when she see's me.

 

This is what you need to be thinking. If you feel better, you project better. Beam confidence man. She will notice, of course she will. Beam confidence and hit on all the other girls there.

 

If you catch her watching. Bingo! Your confidence will grow more.

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This is what you need to be thinking. If you feel better, you project better. Beam confidence man. She will notice, of course she will. Beam confidence and hit on all the other girls there.

 

If you catch her watching. Bingo! Your confidence will grow more.

 

Yeah your right i was planning on doing that anyway, im planning on hitting on girls who she really hates aswell, since she has really really bad anger issues and she might be drunk i think ill get a funny reaction:laugh:

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