Glass Bead Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 A month ago I decided I'm not interested on a person anymore. We've known each other for a year through work and we're attracted to one another but nothing ever happened, one reason being that she's already on a relationship. We get along well in working and being together but we never talked about being friends and we never wanted/got to clear everything out. I'm still attracted but I'm not interested in seeing this person in the future other than meeting her through work, even though she has discussed with me last month that she'd like to spend holidays where I live. I gave her a cold answer but I think that the issue isn't over because she really sounded interested. I had disappointments but I didn't keep any bad feelings. I'm just done with all of this and I want to move on, but I feel that everything is just laying down and waiting. And FB really doesn't help me on that aspect even if I set it not get any updates from her or turn off the messenger. Right now it just gives me the feeling that I'm still 'connected' with that person and that makes me feel umconfortable since I'd rather have no contact, even though we never interacted through FB. So, I've started thinking about removing her from my Friends list - to get distance and also to shown her that I need a break and make no plans with me. I've done it before with people I really never wanted back in my life but here I don't hate her, just need a break and to make sure she understands me. But at the same time I feel this may lead to a reaction and further involvement from her part. I thought also about explaining her but at the same time, I don't feel she deserves it, the same reason why I'm not interested in her anymore. Either way, right now it feels that it's either waiting for her to come with something I don't need/want (and I've started being interested in other people) or really make a break from all of this. Any suggestions?
flitzanu Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 A month ago I decided I'm not interested on a person anymore. We've known each other for a year through work and we're attracted to one another but nothing ever happened, one reason being that she's already on a relationship. We get along well in working and being together but we never talked about being friends and we never wanted/got to clear everything out. I'm still attracted but I'm not interested in seeing this person in the future other than meeting her through work, even though she has discussed with me last month that she'd like to spend holidays where I live. I gave her a cold answer but I think that the issue isn't over because she really sounded interested. I had disappointments but I didn't keep any bad feelings. I'm just done with all of this and I want to move on, but I feel that everything is just laying down and waiting. And FB really doesn't help me on that aspect even if I set it not get any updates from her or turn off the messenger. Right now it just gives me the feeling that I'm still 'connected' with that person and that makes me feel umconfortable since I'd rather have no contact, even though we never interacted through FB. So, I've started thinking about removing her from my Friends list - to get distance and also to shown her that I need a break and make no plans with me. I've done it before with people I really never wanted back in my life but here I don't hate her, just need a break and to make sure she understands me. But at the same time I feel this may lead to a reaction and further involvement from her part. I thought also about explaining her but at the same time, I don't feel she deserves it, the same reason why I'm not interested in her anymore. Either way, right now it feels that it's either waiting for her to come with something I don't need/want (and I've started being interested in other people) or really make a break from all of this. Any suggestions? i'm really confused on most of what you're saying. it sounds like you're trying to break up with your friend. if you're not dating, i'm not sure why this needs to be complicated?
Berna Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I don't understand either. Did you break up, or you are still together in a way? If you don't care about her, you wouldn't care less if she is on Facebook or not. So?
lovehurts82 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 It sounds to me like he was shown mutual interest from a girl at work, though she's already in a relationship. To me it sounds like perhaps the OP had his heart set on someone who didn't share his same interest and he maybe feels played, perhaps? I would say if you don't want to have any contact with her, then delete her. If in the future something comes of it and you want to be friends, then it's a simple click to add her back. I wouldn't stress yourself out over it. Unfriend her and move on. There's nothing saying you can't become friends one day without FB.
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