magicallydelicious Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 sorry, this is kind of lengthy there's this guy that I met a little over two years ago. it started as a one night stand (I told him I didn't want anything serious), and then we hooked up a few times again, and I actually ended up dating another guy. a few months later, I hooked up with this guy again (at the end of things with the other guy) and it was a big mess. we didn't talk for a while, then a few months later we were out with mutual friends, and we talked and hung out, made out, but agreed because I was looking for a relationship, it was best not to hook up. I ended up getting into a serious relationship, and a few months after, I hung out with mutual friends and this guy was there. we talked a lot, and he tried to get with me, but I turned him down because I was in a relationship. shortly after, he moved to the other side of the country for work, but we still chatted every so often. I broke up with my ex about 3 months ago, and this guy and I have been chatting more frequently. so this guy came back into town at the end of last week to visit/for a friend's wedding. we ended up hanging out Friday, and we chatted, etc, and were going to hook up but he was too drunk and couldn't keep it up. afterward, I was going to leave to go home, but he told me he wanted me to spend the night and grabbed me and held me, so I stayed. that morning we tried sex again, but he couldn't stay hard, and he told me he was nervous. I didn't get it. we hung out for a little while, and then I went home. Sunday we ended up hanging out again. we cuddled and watched movies for a while, and we ended up having some pretty serious conversations. he shared a lot with me--a lot more than he's ever told me before about his past, his family, etc. and I shared things with him. he also told me that he's surprised that I didn't end up moving out to chicago, like I had talked about before. he kept bringing it up, and I finally told him I really like the job that I got here, to which he responded, "well, if you lived in chicago, it would be more conducive to us hanging out". we finally ended up having sex and it was good, just like before. again we hung out for a while in the morning, then he had lunch plans, and I headed home. he went to visit friends in another city for a few days and we're supposed to hang out when he gets back here. i guess I'm just confused. I know things could never work out because of distance, but things feel different this time, and I'm not sure if it's just because we've become better friends or what. any advice? thanks.
Emilia Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Just keep dating each other, relax chill. Clearly you are drawn to each other, somehow you managed to keep a connection over all these years, don't screw it up by over analysisng it! Just go with the flow, cuddle and watch DVDs and cook together etc
the ill-made knight Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 From the sounds of things, you are developing feelings for him. I can't really get a read on whether the feeling is mutual or not from what you've said. The way I see it if the feeling isn't mutual you need to stop hooking up with him and if it is like you said the distance is a huge factor.
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