locaxox Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone. I'm new here and I really need some help! I've been dating this guy for around 2 months now. The first month was great but in the last two weeks he's suddenly gone all distant. My phone has recently been disconnected so I can understand him not being in contact as much but he use to facebook message me or call my home phone to get in contact and now he doesn't. I've noticed he's been adding quite a few girls to facebook lately and he's been cancelling on me at the last minute. I'm now the one always having to get in contact. The first month he was really serious about us and talking about a relationship and now he says that his emotions are all over the place and he doesn't know what he wants. He says he still likes me, misses me and isn't losing interest but he's confused. When I told him I was feeling neglected he also said that it was ok if I saw other people. He never would have said that a month ago. Oh and he's also less affectionate when we're around each other. We haven't had sex yet so I'm thinking maybe that has something to do with it? Can anyone help me out here or give me a little insight as to what's going on? Edited August 29, 2012 by locaxox
smellybelly Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Sounds like he is confused and not sure if he wants to go further with you so he is backing off. My suggestion would be to back off also and do the opposite of what he would expect of you. Stop calling him, don't suggest plans, and be unavailable 50% of the time. He won't respond to your words but will notice your actions. Stay cool and in the mean time think about how he and this situation makes you feel. Is it worth the anxiety and doubt. Do you love him? Do you need him? This soon into the relationship I doubt it. So use this as a position of power and through your actions communicate to him you'll be fine without him... Which you will be:)
smellybelly Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Sounds like he is confused and not sure if he wants to go further with you so he is backing off. My suggestion would be to back off also and do the opposite of what he would expect of you. Stop calling him, don't suggest plans, and be unavailable 50% of the time. He won't respond to your words but will notice your actions. Stay cool and in the mean time think about how he and this situation makes you feel. Is it worth the anxiety and doubt. Do you love him? Do you need him? This soon into the relationship I doubt it. So use this as a position of power and through your actions communicate to him you'll be fine without him... Which you will be:) Oh yes! Most importantly do not sleep with Him during this time unless he comes around and commits to you 100%
Author locaxox Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Thanks for the advice I ended up just breaking it off with him. It was too emotionally draining and I guess it shouldn't be like that after only 2 months
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