Major Problem!

[aus44]

My gf and i have been dating for about 1.5 years and have been "together" for for about 2 years or so.

 

She is entering her senior of college and we are having major problems. Im the type of guy that gets jealous when she texts other guys or goes out to the bars and doesnt text me or tell me what shes doing or anything. And recently, right at the end of summer when she went out like 3 days in a row i wasnt too happy, but it wasnt just because she went it was the fact that we hadent talked or seen eachother for for awhile.

 

3 days ago she said she doesn't know if she wants a bf right now because she is a senior in college and wants to have fun but cant when i am always on her case. She told me she needs time to think and i have tried explaining to her through phone/text that i am sorry and i will let her have her space and i won't be jealous anyone or at least make it known. But she doesnt really listen because she gets mad when i text her because like i said above she told me she needed time alone.

 

It seems like its really serious and i dont know what to do. I know the best thing is to just leave her alone for the next few days but i cant stop thinking about it and am very depressed and bored because we would hangout about everynight and all my friends live at least 20 miles away.

 

Is just waiting until she talks to me the best way to go or how can i make her want me again?

 

Thanks

[pteromom]

I don't blame her for not wanting a boyfriend, if every time she wants to hang out with friends, she has to deal with jealousy and reassuring you. It would get old fast.

 

If she decides to give it another chance, you need to give her space without giving her grief.

 

Of course, if she truly hasn't put any effort in or ever prioritized time with you, you have a reason to be jealous, and a reason to just try to move on.

[aus44]

And one more thing that makes me confused is the day she said she needed some space and time to think, that night after being out with friends she called me and we had your basic convo about what each of us did that night and that was it, which i felt very happy about.

 

The next morning i texted her safe driving because she was going on a 4 hour drive that day to meet up wtith her pageant coach. A little bit after that i told her i was done with classes and she said she should have told me earlier and that i could have went with her.

 

This made me very confused because just last night she said she needed time. Later that day i texted her a couple more times (thinking she was maybe starting to get over it already) but then again she went back to telling me not to text her and me trying to contact her is only getting worse.

 

I just dont get it but it is almost impossible for me to not text/call her because i think about her all the time and i cant even pay attention in any of my classes

[aus44]

Its been about a day and a half without texting or calling her but its just so hard to sit around and not try talk to her! Should i absolutely wait until she contacts me or just text her or something in a day or so?