My boyfriend of 7 years is my best friend, im in love with someone else

[Mufahasa]

Where do i start.

 

I've been with my boyfriend 7 years, since i was 16, hes been asking me out since i was 12. we've gone through so much together. I do love him, but im not in love with him. I care dearly for him but i can't with him.

 

I'm in love with someone else and ive been seeing him for 3 years. he knows the situation. he isnt happy bout it but as hes not good with relationships himself and i am by far am his longest relationship then hes been slightly understanding.

 

I am a good person doing a ****ty bad low thing and im lost so so lost. my problem is i dont no how to let go, im scared and im incredibly jealous.. like i have a right yea i no! but i just am. i have several times broke from my boyfriend but like he even says to me, 'you say that its over, but u always come back' i cant follow anythng through when it comes to this relationship.

 

i want to be with the person ive fallen in love with, he is the only person that who made me believe i could be married or have a child, hes the only person who i guess ive ever wanted it with. i grew up thinkin id be a business women coz no one cud ever love me or i cud never contemplate child birth!

 

My boyfriend doesnt really have any ambition, he has a job that pays him bugger all and doesnt work truly full time, where as i do i always have, ive had 2 jobs whilst i was at uni. i guess ive felt were not equals and if we got serious id be the one left with the kid doing everything. I dont want that, i wont do that. and im not just gonna have a kid to find that out. i want it to be right. i could stay with him and be happy what ive got, we get on so comfortably well. But my heart doesnt belong to him anymore, and its so unfair on him. We have sex like once every3 months now, i make excuses and sometimes because he smokes pot we pass out before it arises. i still live at home so i dont share the bed every night.

 

I want my life to begin with the man i love. he makes my life light up and he opens doors.

 

But my jealousy pulls me back i need work out how to let go but how.

[pteromom]

Just break up with him. You are making it more difficult than it has to be. You don't want to be with him, so set him free so he can find someone who loves him.

[Leigh 87]

I cannot believe your with your boyfriend - does he KNOW you have another guy?! If he does not know about it, your a REALLY, weak, spineless person! You have NO integrity!

You MAY be a good person, but your behaving in a VERY unfair, shamefull way.

WHY did you not break up with your boyfriend BEFORE you entered a relationship with the guy you now love?

 

You need to see that what you have done is TOTALLY disgusting, admit you are doing a really sh*tty thing, and try to do the RIGHT thing ( aka BREAK UP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND), and then get professional help, or try to work on your issues that MADE you so WEAK that you could not even end your relationshiop, before entering a new one:sick:

 

No one on here knows wheather your a good person or not! You could be very nice. And you had two jobs whilst doing Uni, you obviously do have some strength and determination; USE IT.now to do the right thing...

 

I hope you leave your boyfriend immediately, and NEVER do somethiing like that again! I hope you say your VERY sorry to him, and say that you ADMIT you were a weak, pathetic idiot who was not strong enough to leave him.

 

Please, do not bother coming back and posting here unless your going to do the right thing! OR what the heck is the point in coming here?