BooBoo1982 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 In your experience when an ex has left you for another have they been honest and upfront or lied by pretending there is no one. Do you think they lie to save our feelings or are they just cowards?
Author BooBoo1982 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 does it matter somehow? Not to you obviously so why reply.
january2011 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 If you count lying by omission, then yes. It could be passive-aggressiveness to avoid hurt feelings and confrontations or it could be that since you are no longer together, they don't owe you any explanations or news about their life choices much less information on their romantic activities.
Car10e Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I think they do it to save our feelings, but either way we're gonna find out somehow. I called my ex a coward in front of his new gf when I found out.
Samilia Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 In your experience when an ex has left you for another have they been honest and upfront or lied by pretending there is no one. Do you think they lie to save our feelings or are they just cowards? Most people lie, coward their way out, deny that there's anybody else. Some people are honest enough to admit to the truth, even after the facts, it's better than nothing. I suspect you got served a plate of "I didn't tell you anything because I didn't want to upset you", when what they mean is "I wasn't strong enough to tell you" or "I wanted to remain the good guy here". Eh.. "grow balls" is what I'd say.
KatZee Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I think they're cowards more than anything. It really can't be to "spare" feelings because be real, how long does or did it take any of us to find out about that new person? They just want to end the relationship as quickly and as easily as possible so they can transition into the new just as quickly. I should have known my ex would do that to me because he did it to his ex BEFORE me. He had dated her well over 5 years. He threw her out like she was nothing, and a mere 3 weeks after ending it with her, he was with me. I for some reason believed him when he told me he had been out of love with her for a while. I believed him when he said I was not a rebound. I thought because we had been strictly friends for 3 months before he ended it with her, that it meant he was over her. Anyway... his girlfriend at the time went through his phone because she felt he was acting differently. She found text messages between us. Nothing bad. I didn't want to be the other woman and was telling him to either work it out with her, or end it and move on and be happy with someone else, regardless if it was with me or someone else. He decided to end it with her, all the while, swore to her face up and down that there was no one else. What a joke. He had been confiding in me for months. Saying he was falling for me. Saying he wanted to be with me. He didn't love her. Hadn't loved her in so long. He told her there was no one, meanwhile there was me. And just weeks after ending it, he was in an official relationship with me! So why even bother lying about it? She found out real quickly that he did indeed leave her for me. So when we ended, I didn't learn about someone new. I learned about someone new about 2 months after our split. But given his track record, it wouldn't surprise me if he met her while dating me. I asked him if there was someone else and he told me there was no one else whatsoever. But he lied to his ex. So why wouldn't he do the same to me?
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