The Potentials: girls that have caught my eye

[somedude81]

OMG you guys! If his thread upsets you so much just stay out of it! Easy! He is asking for ADVICE and he is actually being pro-active so instead of beating him down and NITPICKING at his post, how about offer advice or just leave him alone? Geezzzzz.

 

 

 

Your question is not relevant. He started the thread to get advice on these 3 women. If you don't want to offer any, don't. But don't harrass the guy for it! I am not sure how describing a girl as pretty or not is reducing her to cattle :rolleyes: but okay.

 

ANYWAY!

 

SD, very cool that you are interacting with these women and also that you are in Salsa! I agree with everything Wholigan said! I think of the 2 girls in your class, you should ask out girl #2 because the first will likely be leaving anyway if she is an international student.

 

I think you should chat up your neighbor. At the very least, you could find yourself with a new friend / improve your convo skills with girls.

 

#2 in Salsa is who I think you should ask out. Is Salsa a club through school?

Thanks Veg.

 

The Salsa class is taught by a "professor" as a class and there is a separate Salsa organization (club) that is also on campus that I will be joining in a couple of weeks.

 

So you also think I should ask out #2. As for #1 leaving soon, she said that is she is graduating in May, so I think she will at least be here until then.

 

As for my neighbor, I am slowly talking to her more. I could have a real conversation with her next time I run into her but I'm not really sure to start because I don't know anything about her. The only thing we have in common is that we live in the same complex.

 

and SD I agree with you that you don't need to concentrate on flirting perse. Just chatting with them and all that is what you want to do at this point. I mean could be that you talk to them and realize you wouldn't like them anyway.

OK, so just chat for now.

 

That's actually quite a good thing. What you need to do probably is experiment a little bit. I'm going to send you a program to help you out with the conversational stuff. It obviously needs to be more natural and authentic rather than forced, but still, it's probably better that you don't think about the conversation or anything, just be in the moment.

Damn dude, how much material do you have?

 

I do agree that I need to experiment. I'm definitely weak in the flirting thing and I don't think the girls are going to bite my head off if I do it wrong.

 

Don't think about who she dates. Bad idea

 

I know a lot of girls who seem like they only date those kinds of guys - until you see their boyfriends on facebook :lmao:

Yeah, it is an easy trap to get into. Just psyching myself out right from the start.

 

 

Honestly, just keep doing what you're doing and talking to them. If you want to learn how to be naturally better at flirting, you can practice elsewhere if you're not yet quite comfortable with it. I just want you to focus on being in the moment with your conversations.

 

Still probably good practice in terms of conversing with girls and becoming more comfortable with them.

Aye, lots of practice.

 

 

The Czech girl is not "too good" for you. That's a silly way of thinking about it.

 

That's supposed to be some sort of encouragement.

 

Ignore the haters. Don't get dragged down to their level.

Thanks oaks.

 

And speaking of ignoring the haters, there's another one right above me. Ignored.

[KungFuJoe]

Somedude,

 

Us "haters" are your best friends. You don't see that now and you probably never will, but it's the damn truth.

[ThaWholigan]

Damn dude, how much material do you have?

 

Lots and lots. I am an information junkie, I like info on everything. Remember, you can download torrents if you have the memory and you can't afford to buy stuff.

 

Like I said, I'll PM you some stuff to help you

 

I do agree that I need to experiment. I'm definitely weak in the flirting thing and I don't think the girls are going to bite my head off if I do it wrong.

Girls flirt all the time - and not all of them are as good at it as they like to think . Girls talk the biggest game when it comes to banter. It won't be hard once you get the hang of flirting. I'm not even that good at it yet, but I'm pretty stellar when I'm ready .

 

 

Yeah, it is an easy trap to get into. Just psyching myself out right from the start.

You can't think of women as being out of your league - even if they seem like the hottest women in the world. Sometimes those women never get asked out because so many guys are intimidated. Don't think about it, just talk to her for the woman that she is rather than think about how she's out of your league. Trust me on this one, I've had that experience of pedestaling a girl like that, only to fluff my chance to date her.

 

Just keep it going, but keep your eye on the other things in your life

[Lonely Ronin]

Joseph Goebbels = More Alpha than u brooo!

O no I'm shaking in mt boots bro...

 

 

 

For all the Japanese kitsch in your avatar and name, I bet you're just a white guy with an Asian fetish

White yes, Fetish no. I was reading "Book of Five Rings" when I made my username up.

[Lonely Ronin]

I knew it, no wonder it struck me as so cheesy and redundant (I bet you got those Japanese letters tattooed on your leg ) .

Hell no.....

 

I wonder what a real Samurai would make of some 2012 western effete that makes looking pretty for women the beginning and end of his life. Imagine, a Samurai with no overlord, trading in his sword and code for a gym membership and some sluts you respect as a rule for no reason other than they got the hole . If you had any honor, you would change your name to something more descriptive of you, like for example- Alfalfa. Then again, Alfalfa was a cool woman-hater in public, even he kept his pussy-worship to himself until he found one actually worth worshiping (a woman that has sex with dirtbags and a baby that has no father because of it, is not worth worship) .

I find your feeble attempts at baiting me amusing, keep them coming. Also, you should look up the meaning of the word Ronin.

[jobaba]

And that shows he hasn't learned anything. Surely if he had listened to anything You, I, or anyone else on LS had said, he would have at least learned that objectifying women isn't helping him any.

 

Are you serious?

 

Posting some comments about how they look decent and describing their look is offensively objectifying women?

 

You don't those three women are doing the same to Somedude81? You don't think they haven't sized him up already and decided whether or not he's attractive enough to date? I guarantee you at least 2 out of 3 of them have, if not all 3.

 

I wouldn't necessarily post something like that, but I am ridiculed and disdained for my lack of emphasis on physical appearance.

 

What he posted seems to be the norm...

[Lonely Ronin]

Posting some comments about how they look decent and describing their look is offensively objectifying women?

 

Not me personally, But I know several women that would not be happy about being compared, specially in an open forum such as this.

 

 

What he posted seems to be the norm...

On LS it is. And how many guys here have relationship problems hmmmmmmmm.

[Lonely Ronin]

Yes, I know what a Ronin is.

Sure you do...

[The Way I Am]

Not me personally, But I know several women that would not be happy about being compared, specially in an open forum such as this.

 

He didn't give out their names or any personally identifiable information. These women you know seem very uptight.

 

Somedude, you should ask out #1. You obviously like her the most. If she says no, oh well. You didn't lose out any more than you would have not even asking. If you hit it off but she leaves, at least you'll have the pleasure of knowing you can get a date with someone you thought was out of your league.

 

You only seem luke warm on #2, so I don't think you should do more than flirt with her. If in the process of your flirting, you end up liking her more, then ask her out.

 

#3 I wouldn't suggest a fling with a single mother who lives in the same building. That's asking for trouble. Just chat her up for practice talking to women.

[veggirl]

Not me personally, But I know several women that would not be happy about being compared, specially in an open forum such as this.

 

 

most people would probably not like their partner/SO posting about personal relationship issues on an open forum either, perhaps you should go scold the posters who share those things too.

 

You are just looking for reasons to pick on SD, and frankly at this point grasping at straws.

 

SD, how often do you have your salsa class?

 

yes I think you should ask out girl #2, her running up and hugging you is a great sign. I mean you likely can't ask out both--awkward--so yeah #2 would be my vote. I'm guessing she isn't shy, and you mentioned you could get her to go to lunch. I'd ask her to lunch and be sure to touch her at some point, either GOOD hug at the end or playful touching (arm or whatever)

[William]

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