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Normally I end up making several threads on each girl that I get some interest in, so this time I thought it would be best to have one thread where I talk about several girls, adding more as I come across them in my journeys.

 

First day in Salsa class I interacted with two girls that really caught my eye.

 

#1 White, long blonde hair, really great body and pretty. A little bit taller than myself.

 

Somehow we ended up sitting next together before class started and we ended up talking most of the class. She was very easy to talk to with a pleasant personality. She's an international student from the Czech Republic.

 

Physically, she's everything I want in a woman but that also worries me because she's probably too good for me. I don't know if I'd actually have a chance with her. Still wondering if I should ask her out anyways.

 

#2 Chinese, hair is really short, and she cut it shorter since the last time I saw her :( Average body but she's cute.

 

I had a class with this girl two semesters ago and right away she recognized me and hugged. When the class got started I ended up being between both girls and that was kind of difficult trying to give attention to both.

 

This girl has a very fun personality and I had a little bit of a thing for her in the past. Physically she's OK, but doesn't have any of the extras I like. Something tells me she doesn't have a boyfriend but I can easily find out next time we talk. There's another guy in the class that she knows, who is also a much better dancer than I am, so that's kind of a bother. I don't like competing for attention from girls.

 

Since I already know her it almost feels like I have a head-start. I could probably get her to have lunch with me when I see her next class. I'm wondering if I should express any interest so soon.

 

Bonus girl #3 Hispanic, most likely Mexican. Long hair, nice body, pretty

 

My next door neighbor!

 

She's my age or a few years younger and moved in with her mother and younger brother (my guess is 12) a month or two ago. Normally I'd be much closer to her than I am now but she has a baby girl :eek:

 

I have no idea who the father is, and I've never seen a guy who could be, at their place.

 

Her being a mom is not something I know how to deal with and it makes me awkward around her.

 

Straight up, I have no interest in a relationship. I'm nowhere even close to ready to date a girl who has a kid. But a casual thing would be nice if she's willing. Still I have no clue how to even make such a thing work. While it's almost a fantasy getting it on with a cute girl that live so close to me, it's probably not a good thing. Especially since her kid brother is always outside in the shared courtyard.

 

That's everybody for now and I'm sure a few more will be added as the

 

Oh yeah: And please no hate in this thread.

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ThaWholigan Established Member

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:cool:

 

OK fam, it appears you are at ease with both of the girls in your class. That's good. All I can say really is keep it up, your interactions should be relatively easy - it would probably be better for you to maintain that. I would normally say that you could try to be a bit bold in your talking and flirt a little, build some tension, but I want you to save that for now as it may backfire for you. Again, some links would probably help you suffice.

 

The 1st girl, being an international student, is likely a bit of a long-shot, but seeing as you have nothing to lose, use it as an opportunity to sharpen your skill at talking to women. Try and stay in the moment while talking to her, so you are completely present in the conversation rather than thinking of what to say. It should start to be a little bit easier for you as it keeps going :).

 

With the 2nd girl, there is a little more rapport there as you guys know each other, so you could possibly rekindle that - maybe there is a little scope here to inject a bit of banter into the mix.

 

As for the 3rd - well, she's a neighbour so you have to see her every day. But if she has a kid and you're not interested in more than casual with her, you have 2 choices here:

 

1) Just keep it light and be a good neighbor.

 

2) When you see her, ramp up the banter and have flirty conversations, if you can pull it off.

 

 

I know you're thinking about the goal here, but that may count against you - what I want you to do when you're talking to these girls is to not think about it. Be prepared beforehand, but when in conversation, stop thinking, be in the moment and it should come together. Your wit, your sense of humor will come across more authentic as a result. So no overthinking!!

 

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verhrzn Established Member

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Why, why why why why why, did you create this thread? WHY.

 

It is your last year of school, is it not? How bout instead of making a list with all the specific details of the girls you want to casually get with, you focus on achieving stellar grades and applying for jobs?

 

Or get more hobbies? Or... SOMETHING, beside adding a frowny face because some random girl cut her hair?

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From what I have gathered from other threads you have a lot of difficulties with women. I am a bit concerned about how much emphasis you had in the thread in regards to what the women look like, especially multiple times saying number two is just okay looking.

 

Beggars can't be choosers..

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Titanwolf Established Member

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TL;DR, but *liked for*

OK fam
dat dere Anglo-saxon vocabularylary.
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ThaWholigan Established Member

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Why, why why why why why, did you create this thread? WHY.

 

It is your last year of school, is it not? How bout instead of making a list with all the specific details of the girls you want to casually get with, you focus on achieving stellar grades and applying for jobs?

 

Or get more hobbies? Or... SOMETHING, beside adding a frowny face because some random girl cut her hair?

 

From what I have gathered from other threads you have a lot of difficulties with women. I am a bit concerned about how much emphasis you had in the thread in regards to what the women look like, especially multiple times saying number two is just okay looking.

 

Beggars can't be choosers..

 

None of this is helpful to be honest.

 

 

I agree V, that there should be an added focus on the studies, but he will obviously feel like he has missed out on dating opportunities if he doesn't at least mingle with the population at his college. I don't see why he cannot try and balance the two.

 

The emphasis on looks was a little tactless, but must we nitpick at this all the time?

 

Let's try and keep this one sweet please.

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None of this is helpful to be honest.

 

I agree V, that there should be an added focus on the studies, but he will obviously feel like he has missed out on dating opportunities if he doesn't at least mingle with the population at his college. I don't see why he cannot try and balance the two.

 

The emphasis on looks was a little tactless, but must we nitpick at this all the time?

 

Let's try and keep this one sweet please.

 

Too bad it never is short. And how is telling him to focus on his future, take so much emphasis off dating, not helpful? It's exactly what you told him... stop focusing so much on the goal.

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I agree V, that there should be an added focus on the studies, but he will obviously feel like he has missed out on dating opportunities if he doesn't at least mingle with the population at his college.

 

Come on man, his primary goal is to get laid, a relationship is so far back in second place, that it's practically invisible.

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... And my question of why he started this thread is still relevant. Was it really necessary to go into such exaggerated detail about the girls he's looking to score with?

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Come on man, his primary goal is to get laid, a relationship is so far back in second place, that it's practically invisible.

 

Actually, somedude would prefer to have a girlfriend rather than just to "get laid".

 

My point is simply that somedude gets piled on an awful lot, for not that much. I get at him about his attitude sometimes, but I try to help him without chastising him or making him feel like a loser. I would just like to see one somedude thread where he isn't being piled on, and I'm trying to do just that. I don't think he needs telling that he needs to do well in his studies this year and deal with his future, but he obviously would rather have girls in that future. So lets bridge that gap.

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... And my question of why he started this thread is still relevant. Was it really necessary to go into such exaggerated detail about the girls he's looking to score with?

Probably not, but why does anybody elaborate about anything? Nobody said anything when I was "overly elaborate" about my own passionate encounter.

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verhrzn Established Member

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Probably not, but why does anybody elaborate about anything? Nobody said anything when I was "overly elaborate" about my own passionate encounter.

 

Maybe because you don't have a history of reducing women down to just their looks.

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I would just like to see one somedude thread where he isn't being piled on, and I'm trying to do just that.

 

Starting a thread that sounds like he is selling cattle at an auction, isn't going to get him much empathy on LS.

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Starting a thread that sounds like he is selling cattle at an auction, isn't going to get him much empathy on LS.

It wasn't THAT bad :lmao:

 

He doesn't help his cause with the way he speaks, but a lot worse has been said on this forum - Somedude himself has said way worse than that.

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He doesn't help his cause with the way he speaks, but a lot worse has been said on this forum - Somedude himself has said way worse than that.

 

And that shows he hasn't learned anything. Surely if he had listened to anything You, I, or anyone else on LS had said, he would have at least learned that objectifying women isn't helping him any.

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What did you guys not understand about "Oh yeah: And please no hate in this thread."

 

Lonely Ronin and verhrzn

 

Both of you have several posts in this thread all off-topic.

 

My goal for this thread is very specific. If you want to talk about my educational and career goals, go ahead and make a thread about it. Maybe I'll drop by; no promises.

 

As for me wanting to just "get laid" or not, unless specified otherwise, all girls are people I want to get to know better and see if a relationship is possible. That applies to #1 & #2.

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OK fam, it appears you are at ease with both of the girls in your class. That's good. All I can say really is keep it up, your interactions should be relatively easy - it would probably be better for you to maintain that. I would normally say that you could try to be a bit bold in your talking and flirt a little, build some tension, but I want you to save that for now as it may backfire for you. Again, some links would probably help you suffice.

 

I know you're thinking about the goal here, but that may count against you

 

So no overthinking!!

It's amazing that flirting and anything like that is nowhere in my mind. Honestly, when I talk to girls I am in the moment and just focused on the conversation. It's not till I get a way for a bit that I realize, "Oh I want to do more than talk to her."

 

The 1st girl, being an international student, is likely a bit of a long-shot, but seeing as you have nothing to lose, use it as an opportunity to sharpen your skill at talking to women. Try and stay in the moment while talking to her, so you are completely present in the conversation rather than thinking of what to say. It should start to be a little bit easier for you as it keeps going :).

Yeah #1 does seem like a long shot because she's international. And even then I can already imagine what kind of guys she normally dates. Probably nothing but 6'5, muscular European guys.

With the 2nd girl, there is a little more rapport there as you guys know each other, so you could possibly rekindle that - maybe there is a little scope here to inject a bit of banter into the mix.

I'll definitely try.

 

The only reason I didn't ask her out last time we had a class together was because I was still heavily crushing on the last girl.

As for the 3rd - well, she's a neighbour so you have to see her every day. But if she has a kid and you're not interested in more than casual with her, you have 2 choices here:

 

1) Just keep it light and be a good neighbor.

 

2) When you see her, ramp up the banter and have flirty conversations, if you can pull it off.

LOL, I don't think I could pull it off.

 

I've thought about inviting her to get some coffee but the thought of what do to with the baby just throws me off. I don't really want to invite her when her mom is there but when she's alone, she can't leave the baby.

 

It's probably more effort than its worth.

 

 

Thank Who

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OMG you guys! If his thread upsets you so much just stay out of it! Easy! He is asking for ADVICE and he is actually being pro-active so instead of beating him down and NITPICKING at his post, how about offer advice or just leave him alone? Geezzzzz.

 

... And my question of why he started this thread is still relevant. Was it really necessary to go into such exaggerated detail about the girls he's looking to score with?

 

Your question is not relevant. He started the thread to get advice on these 3 women. If you don't want to offer any, don't. But don't harrass the guy for it! I am not sure how describing a girl as pretty or not is reducing her to cattle :rolleyes::rolleyes: but okay.

 

ANYWAY!

 

SD, very cool that you are interacting with these women and also that you are in Salsa! I agree with everything Wholigan said! I think of the 2 girls in your class, you should ask out girl #2 because the first will likely be leaving anyway if she is an international student.

 

I think you should chat up your neighbor. At the very least, you could find yourself with a new friend / improve your convo skills with girls.

 

#2 in Salsa is who I think you should ask out. Is Salsa a club through school?

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and SD I agree with you that you don't need to concentrate on flirting perse. Just chatting with them and all that is what you want to do at this point. I mean could be that you talk to them and realize you wouldn't like them anyway.

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It's amazing that flirting and anything like that is nowhere in my mind. Honestly, when I talk to girls I am in the moment and just focused on the conversation. It's not till I get a way for a bit that I realize, "Oh I want to do more than talk to her."

 

That's actually quite a good thing. What you need to do probably is experiment a little bit. I'm going to send you a program to help you out with the conversational stuff. It obviously needs to be more natural and authentic rather than forced, but still, it's probably better that you don't think about the conversation or anything, just be in the moment.

 

Yeah #1 does seem like a long shot because she's international. And even then I can already imagine what kind of guys she normally dates. Probably nothing but 6'5, muscular European guys.

I'll definitely try.

 

Don't think about who she dates. Bad idea :laugh:

 

I know a lot of girls who seem like they only date those kinds of guys - until you see their boyfriends on facebook :lmao::lmao:

 

Honestly, just keep doing what you're doing and talking to them. If you want to learn how to be naturally better at flirting, you can practice elsewhere if you're not yet quite comfortable with it. I just want you to focus on being in the moment with your conversations.

The only reason I didn't ask her out last time we had a class together was because I was still heavily crushing on the last girl.

 

Fair enough. That's in the past now though. It's a new semester. Start rekindling that rapport ;).

 

LOL, I don't think I could pull it off.

 

I've thought about inviting her to get some coffee but the thought of what do to with the baby just throws me off. I don't really want to invite her when her mom is there but when she's alone, she can't leave the baby.

 

It's probably more effort than its worth.

 

Still probably good practice in terms of conversing with girls and becoming more comfortable with them.

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Come on Veg your going to tell me as a woman you don't have the slight problem with the bold.

 

And ThaWholigan, the bold doesn't say he wants a relationship, it says he wants to sleep with the first woman he can.

 

 

Bonus girl #3 Hispanic, most likely Mexican. Long hair, nice body, pretty

 

My next door neighbor!

 

She's my age or a few years younger and moved in with her mother and younger brother (my guess is 12) a month or two ago. Normally I'd be much closer to her than I am now but she has a baby girl :eek:

 

I have no idea who the father is, and I've never seen a guy who could be, at their place.

 

Her being a mom is not something I know how to deal with and it makes me awkward around her.

 

Straight up, I have no interest in a relationship. I'm nowhere even close to ready to date a girl who has a kid. But a casual thing would be nice if she's willing. Still I have no clue how to even make such a thing work. While it's almost a fantasy getting it on with a cute girl that live so close to me, it's probably not a good thing. Especially since her kid brother is always outside in the shared courtyard.

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The Czech girl is not "too good" for you. That's a silly way of thinking about it.

 

That's supposed to be some sort of encouragement. :)

 

Ignore the haters. Don't get dragged down to their level.

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Come on Veg your going to tell me as a woman you don't have the slight problem with the bold.

 

And ThaWholigan, the bold doesn't say he wants a relationship, it says he wants to sleep with the first woman he can.

In the bolded, he was referring to that particular girl. He was explaining that it wouldn't be realistic for him to have a relationship with that girl, and to an extent I agree with him.

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Come on Veg your going to tell me as a woman you don't have the slight problem with the bold.

 

 

I have no problem with anything he said.

 

If he and this girl end up in a casual encounter, then whatever. Why would that upset me?

 

I have met plenty of men that I would not date but am sexually attracted to. Should that offend SomeDude and the other men of LS?

 

And really anyone who has read his threads knows he wants a gf and is not simply looking to get laid. But that doesn't mean he would turn sex down. That doesn't upset me. At all.

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Come on Veg your going to tell me as a woman you don't have the slight problem with the bold.

 

And ThaWholigan, the bold doesn't say he wants a relationship, it says he wants to sleep with the first woman he can.

Dude what the hell is your problem?

 

You're actually trying to stir up trouble for me.

 

Just stop posting in my threads and put me on ignore already.

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C'mon...over 8000 posts and still regurgitating the same crap over and over again?

 

What's the definition of insanity again?

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