worldgonewrong Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Just like the title of the thread states, I'm interested in stories from Betrayed Spouses who witnessed (in a manner of speaking) their Walk-Away Spouse's affairs go kaput. Had you already divorced by that time? Did you experience remorse/regret from the WAW? Or did they parasitically leap onto the next unsuspecting host relationship-wise? I ask not because I'm looking for hope (not feeling that at ALL), but because I'm interested in seeing a concentrated sampling of different stories in one thread. Thank you for your time.
GLDheart Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I'm still NC with my wayward... but I'll come back to update the record with how this all pans out.
GLDheart Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Was wondering if you have any plans on trying to fix things with your ex G??? I'll keep it brief to not T/J here. But, No. Not at this time. Ten years together, but twice a cheater and all trust is gone (it's like she gets a five year itch or something crazy). I'm not saying I don't have feelings for her. But, at this point, someone (hypothetical at this point) that has never betrayed me looks far more appealing. I think I'm going to see how being single and dating goes. 1
Damia Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 My xH is still with his AP after 2years In my opinion Their relationship ticks a huge amount of negative boxes eg 19 yr age gap,lived together from day 1 ,very different backgrounds ,she wants kids he has had the snip But they both love to party,drink and gamble. Who knows what makes one relationship work an another crash Certainly not me ,I will watch this thread with intrest
BetrayedH Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I believe my wife's affair was an "exit" affair and that she was a walk-away wife but never intended to leave me "for him." It was a testing of the waters and she found a MM to do it with. As far as I can tell, their A fizzled upon Dday. It was for sex and the electrical connection that came with it. In the meantime, she was riding the fence , trying to decide about fixing her marriage. 7 months into reconciliation (and high drama), she threw in the towel. I think the fact that her A was really "about me" and really a rejection of me is what I still struggle with the most. But, no, her affair died a quick death. I doubt she will ever marry again. But who knows. I clearly don't know her as well as I thought. I would love to be done with her entirely but my youngest is just 6 so I've got about 12 years of pretty much daily contact to go. 1
beenburned Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 WGW, My sister fell in love with a co-worker(and he with her). They both left their spouses within 6 months of the affair starting, and got divorces. They have now been married for over 15 years and seem to be happy.(they also have a child together) My D's STBXH had 2 OW long term who found out about each other and called my D with all the evidence. She kicked him out and immediately filed for divorce and both OW dropped him. He moved out of state and now has a new GF who knows nothing about his history of being a serial cheater.
SoMovinOn Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 W's affair ended before D-Day. We tried R for a while, but when that wasn't working and I told her to go, she tried to go to one of her OM's - none of them wanted anything to do with her. I feel bad for her. She's done so much to screw up every relationship in her life. I'd like to see her go on an have a wonderful, happy life, but, that's not anything I can choose for her. She has to choose it herself and make it happen.
2.50 a gallon Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I grew up in an old neighborhood. During WWII the neighborhood, with many married men away in service, developed a self policing, attitude, sort of like the old west vigilantes. The OM would be warned to stay away, and if he persisted one night he would be given a blanket party and beaten. During the Korean War one guy kept pursuing after the first party and the second one left him so badly beaten, he was worthless. Was nicknamed Juke-Box-Jerry. By the time I was in high school somebody had given him a small transister radio, and he could be seen wondering around the area with it constantly at his ear. In my time, we had the Vietnam war, and all one had to do was warn the OM that unless he changed his ways he would be Juke-Box-Jerryd. That generally ended the affair as the OM would get out of Dodge. With my situation, shortly after we married the Ex took a job a thousand miles away from out home town. And almost immediately after we moved my marriage was attacked by several OM co-workers, which led to us fighting alot. Then on our six month wedding anniversary I paid a surprise visit to her work place at lunch, with a rose. The one who was surprised was me as I caught her kissing one of the guards. Being as there was a chain link fence between us I couldn't get at them, and the only weapon I had was my razor sharp tongue, and let her have it in front of her co-workers and told her not to come home that night. So she went home with the OM guard, and that is when the affair started. For the next month she delighted in taunting me with her affair, it ended when she paid a visit with the OM to party with the neighbor, and came to our old place to supposedly visit with our cats, but actually to do more nose rubbing. When she noticed an empty champagne bottle in the trash, she rushed to our bedroom and realized that I had screwed somebody else the night before. That is when she broke down, began begging me to take her back, even went so far as to go outside and yell at the top of her lungs, the details of the sexual short comings of the OM so that every body could hear. It was too late, I never entertained the thought of taking her back from the moment I caught her with the OM
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